And I found out more about Jennifer Lopez that I didn’t know as well as had a memory recall of how many men she has fallen fast for. I can relate to J-Lo is many ways, when I am in a relationship I tend to jump and give my all. It’s not that I fall fast for the wrong people, it’s just that I give my all and then get upset when their all isn’t given. Let’s just say relationships in my world are a work in progress, much like J-Lo.

However, her music is amazing and here are a couple of her songs that I just love dearly. I love how she makes curves look hot, you see I don’t consider her extremely curvy, however, she is not an anorexic looking actress/singer and seems to help promote a healthy body image for girls. I think I need to go buy her albums for my car, because I totally forgot just how much I love her music!

I wrote this the other day and feel it could probably help more people so I am sharing it. The deal is, if you are having troubles lately in life that you repeat this as often as possible to remind yourself to 1) smile and 2) love yourself always.

Smile Today

A poem by Brandy Tanner

I will smile through the rain.

I will smile through the pain.

Loving myself is what makes me grow.

And I will smile just to let you know.

Although some romantic movies have pieces of real life relationships, most are really just depicting some fantasy relationship that only happens when one lives their life as if a storybook character is their real person. It’s extremely difficult to watch all of the romantic movies that they have on the market and not find some small hope that your love life could even be a small sample of what you see on the big screen.

For me, romantic movies do only one thing for me; remind me I don’t have the communication level I wish I had. Oh I can talk, ramble on for hours and easily state what is on my mind, but to find a person who can communicate back within the same time period is difficult. It’s easy to say you want communication to change between your partner and your self, but it’s harder to find out why the lack of communication is there.

If the lack of communication has been there from day one, well maybe you need to do some thinking because if this is truly how your partner in life is wired and they do not feel it’s something that needs to be changed within their own self, then it won’t change. We are who we are and no one can change another person!

For me, watching a romantic film in the present day has me longing for a partner who I can bounce off of with ease, we laugh, we joke and above all we simply just talk about everything. For me, watching a romantic movie in the past created this vision of some high sprung love affair that only happens in either movies or the first few months of dating a person.

After reading the stories being shared with me for the I Met My Love Online series happening at Happily Blended during the month of February, I have found that these real life stories are not only entertaining and giving hope to my readers, but they are showing me the “real” side of dating, love and life.

I was always taught at various classes and counseling sessions I have been to in my life that a child will always figure out the faults in a parent without the other parent trying to bring light to those faults. When a parent tries to bring light to another parents faults, as they see them to be, it only causes hurt, pain and sometimes anger within their child. The child may grow resentment towards the parent that is down talking the other parent and in turn what the parent thought was protection turns into a mess!

My parents divorced when I was around 11 years old give or take, and it was so hard being a child at that age with divorcing parents. I don’t have a lot of memories about how I felt back then or issues I may have had right away but in the long run I do know it messed with me having two parents who divorced and truly couldn’t get along. I remember it being so difficult, I didn’t want my parents being put down by anyone let alone by each other. Eventually I grew older and became a parent of my own two weeks before I turned 21. When I became a mother, it all clicked, I realized with the help of counseling and parenting courses that co-parents can get along at a level that is beneficial for a child. The co-parents don’t have to like each other, but they need to find that common ground to raise their child without making the child feel as if they have to choose a side.

When it comes to a child and their parents, they do not want to have to pick Dad over Mom or Mom over Dad, honestly that is all bullshit! A parent should never, ever want a child to choose one over the other, it is a ridiculous thought to me, yet so many co-parents pit their child against each other and it does nothing but ruin the future of that child’s life! The child will eventually grow to despise one or both parents and look for other places to find love. The options for a child to find love are not speakable to me, because I walked that path. I would never wish that life upon another child, whether the child is that of my own blood or not.

It’s extremely difficult when you do not like another human being to shut your mouth and not utter a word while your child learns the ins and outs of how each parent works, but you can do it! Believe me, if I can learn to do it, you can too, no matter how difficult. The best way to work with a child who has co-parents and is having a difficult time with one of the parents is to just take the high road and give them a hug, listen and do not judge. Allow that child the time to collect their own thoughts and make their own final decision regarding the situation or parent. If you are unable to listen and be as unbiased as you can, then maybe it’s time that child spoke with a counselor, seeing a counselor is not a bad thing, believe me…. I see a counselor every couple of weeks to assist in parenting techniques and it has been a blessing!

Whether you are struggling with co-parenting, keeping your mouth shut about negative adjectives regarding the other parent or just not sure what to do, believe me, there is help out there. Seek parenting classes, anger management, whatever resource you feel fits your situation, please take advantage of it. Making yourself a better parent is a daily job and it’s vitally important to your child’s future!

This one woman has the super power human strength of ruining someone’s whole dating life forever. Yes indeed it is true. Apparently this woman is such an evil woman that many, many  years ago she ruined some poor souls life in such a way that this person will never be able to date again. I know this is hard to gulp down, because after all how can one woman do such harm to a man who spends his days sleeping around and smoothing over every female he speaks to?

I really do hope this woman realizes the super human strength she holds in her hands and heart to be able to destroy a person and make them evil for life. You see, if this woman did indeed “ruin” this man well then maybe, just maybe he should have or should now seek counseling services to get his brain and heart straight? That’s just my two cents.

I get that a man and a woman may fall head over heels in love so hard that when the poor couple ends up breaking up that the heart can feel lost for a long time and that indeed this man may feel like this woman ripped his heart out of his chest but at some point one would think both would move on, either with our without professional help.

I am a firm believer that no one person can completely destroy another person in such a devastating way that many years down the road he is still blaming this woman for his demise in relationships. The only way one can make another person feel or be ‘destroyed’ is if they allow that person to make them feel that way or they are due full of ego to realize they have issues that need addressing.

Now I am not sure if we can call this man’s attitude towards a woman a result of pride, as from what I can tell it seems to be he has extremely deep issues and must find the nearest route to a counselor or pyschiatrist and fast. Curious how many of his ‘beaus’ fall for this excuse, I personally would eitehr 1) laugh in this mans face or 2) tell him to go seek professional help so he can move on to lead a successful, happier life.

yes this is a sarcastic fictional article derived from my brain … enjoy!