NO. Can you imagine setting up the perfect proposal and getting down on one knee professing your love to someone when you await her reply and she says no? Me neither. That would be so embarrassing, devastating and heart breaking, right? But this is what love is all about – taking a chance, going out on a limb. Modern technology has made it easier for people to lose that communication bond that holds so many 70 year anniversary couples together, you see those older lovely couples had to talk to each other. They could not hide behind a computer screen, a cell phone text message or run to hide away from their spouse in their home office to chat on Facebook with other friends. They only had each other.

When I see a picture of a couple celebrating a long anniversary or hear that my Great Grandparents are celebrating another year of marriage, I tend to get teary eyed. Thanks Single Dad Laughing – you made me cry with all those photos the other day, but only because one was of an older couple celebrating 70 years of marriage, and I only shed a couple happy tears.

It seems that fear of the unknown keeps some men at bay, they hide behind that fear and refuse to go out on a limb with the perfect, most sweetest proposal for the fear of the love of their life saying no.  Hell if I let the fear of the word no keep me from anything in life I wouldn’t be here working from home, supporting three children. Heck the reply no makes me stronger, you see if you take the time to go all out and propose to the love of your life and she says no, well now you realize that maybe you both are not on the same path, or maybe she just doesn’t feel ready for marriage quite yet.

You see, if you don’t go out on a limb you will live your life in question, surrounded by fear. The adventure of life begins when you go out on a limb and face your fears, do what you know in your heart is what you want and everything else will fall into line with that when the time is right.

Okay I want to hear it – have any of you proposed and she said NO? Maybe you are the girl who said no?  Please share your story with me, I may feature your story on my site! {with your permission of course}

After reading many articles about how cheating made people’s relationships stronger, I have to ask; is it really ever okay to cheat on a spouse? One with a guilty conscious could not cheat and truly lie about it, but what if you are honest and your spouse forgives you. Forgiveness is a powerful tool and the communication between you and your spouse about why this temptation became action could truly create a better bond. You see, most cheat for a reason, it’s an an underlying feeling of lack of importance in the relationship or that something is missing.

While I personally don’t feel deception solves anything, and I do feel if you have cheated on your current spouse then they have a right to know the truth I have seen deception work magic on some marriages. You would be surprised what one can handle if they truly love you when you are honest with them.  Some say that having an affair helped them gain courage to open up about what they needed in their marriage while others said it helped get something they were missing in the marriage.

To answer my question, is it every okay to cheat on a spouse? I say no, but ultimately it is up to you fight the temptations that walk into your life and make decisions based on what is best for yourself. If a marriage isn’t working, it is 50% your fault and 50% the spouses fault; they say it takes two to tango, well it also takes two to not tango.

Do you get what I am saying? So have you ever cheated and how did that work out for you?

Maybe it’s because I haven’t found the right man who mixes well with my work at home routine and crazy schedule of non-sleeping boys but over all I have found that after a period of time I get annoyed with any person I am around a lot. The person usually ends up being a male because in all honesty I don’t hang with too many females and usually it’s a boyfriend I would spend time with when not with kids. Although I am attempting to change that so I can have more friendships and less relationship issues, as I can’t do the relationship thing with my life at the moment.

I often am wondering why a person can make me smile and laugh one moment and then the next be on my nerves so bad that I want to wring their neck?! Is it a hormonal imbalance thing or maybe it’s because I have a hectic schedule and fitting another person into that almost stresses me out. I am quite content just taking care of the kids and working in between the chaos I call my life.

Although having friends is important to me, I don’t think I can focus on it as much as I want to right now at this time in my life.

I am going to counseling with my ex husband, yes, it is true. This is something we had wanted to do before to try to open up communication. We both have our faults and things that we do that whether we are in a relationship together or a different relationship can cause issues.

Of course I tend to withdraw from some people and he tends to not be open with his thoughts and feelings as much as I am. I will tell almost anyone what I am thinking and how it is when I think it. I am outspoken and sometimes it’s not a great thing to be but I enjoy being that way. No one has to ever guess what I am thinking, ever!

One thing I learned about myself is that I am full of anger in a moment about something but then when I stand up and try to confront the person I no longer have that intense feeling of anger or frustration. I have been told by the counselor that apparently I have somewhere along the lines in my life learned that it wasn’t okay to stand up like that for my feelings.

Of course I could give you a million ideas on why I feel I am this way but I do recall my father telling someone once that if I hit them it’s for the last six things that bothered me and to not let them take it personal. Whereas my sister will punch you if she is mad in that moment. I guess I have learned to suppress the negative feelings rather than letting them out and slide away so that they are not accumulated inside of me and come out when they shouldn’t.

So … how do you handle frustration and anger? Are you non-confrontational like me or do you deal with it in that moment allowing your mind and body to be free and clear of the frustration?

Sometimes you may wonder “what if” this moment happened in my previous relationship … would I have fallen back in love? I say no but one fictional woman did .. and here is the story:

He came home from a long day at work and dinner was warm, ready waiting for him on the table. The man wasn’t interested in the dinner laying on his plate, what the man was interested in was his hot woman with a smile on her face, apron on, ready to serve him. The man wanted his woman to serve him all right, to serve him with something a bit more steamy than what laid on that plate over on the kitchen table.

The woman wasn’t expecting what happened next, her man came up to her grabbed a hold of her and with his arms wrapped around her laid a big passionate kiss upon her lips. The woman squirmed a little, for she was shocked at how different her man was acting. Although a smile crossed her face, her heart was racing and her body tingling wondering what her man had in store for her next.

The man turned his woman around and led her to the bedroom where he continued to kiss her but this time on her neck, he kissed her slowly on her neck as her voice moaned from the sheer pleasure of his lips touching her skin. They fall upon the bed and start touching each other passionately, hands roaming, minds wandering and the excitement was so intense that they just had to have each other.

The man slowly worked off his woman’s clothes, they entwined their bodies and they enjoyed a long passionate night of love making.  When the woman woke up the next morning she found a sweet love note beside the bed saying:

Thanks for the great night, I am off to work but today I will miss you and I can not wait to return home to kiss your sweet lips. Love always, your man

This was the day that love and passion was brought back into the house and that was the night that she fell in love with her man all over again.