Facebook Friends vs Real Life Aquaintances

I have a crap ton of friends on Facebook and the majority of them are blog buddies and/or past/present clients, but some of them are locals. That means there are some that I went to high school with, some that were friends with others in my life that connected or reconnected with me on Facebook while others are simply under the category of “I don’t know why we are friends on Facebook”.

When my personal Facebook account was started, it was more for the fun of marketing my writing to people and keeping in touch with family. I can talk to a variety of my huge family on Facebook at any given time and feel as if I am part of their lives, all because of Facebook. The issue I have been having lately is that dreaded unfriend feature. You see, I don’t like to unfriend people on Facebook because it’s like this huge deal, sure I can restrict them to avoid the whole “why did you unfriend me” conversation, but why restrict when you really have no interest in being their friend or they yours?

I accepted friend requests from local people lately, more so in the past year, because I honestly need more local friends. Nothing is worse than raising kids and working from a home office while never getting out to have a girls night or anything, so I thought Facebook would be a fantastic place to start making true friendships or at least some form of acquaintances. Boy could I have never been so wrong.

There are a few people who requested friendship or I requested theirs, in hopes of connecting a bit deeper with them or maybe connecting on a level known as being acquaintances, but silly of me to think that small minds would truly ever want to be more than spies on my Facebook page or just another number to say they are “friends” with me while I won’t be friends with others in their “circle of trust”.

Whatever these people have for a reason to be my friend yet not even acknowledge me in public baffles me. I have no time for the small town bullshit drama, and I have no time for their silly little games. I don’t need to be friends with locals just to have a new number of friends on Facebook nor do I need their local drama. Some people never grow up. So if I unfriended you recently on Facebook, it has nothing to do with you personally … okay well maybe it does but not in the way of who you are as a person, simply because maybe you need to sit back and ask yourself the same question I did “why are we friends on Facebook if I don’t talk to them outside of Facebook when I see them?” I mean seriously people.

Facebook is sometimes very similar to the small town I grew up in and I live beyond that small town, I live inside the mind of a mother who is trying her best to be confident in a world where others would rather drag you down. I live in a world where my happy thoughts keep me going and no other person shall ever bring that down, because I would never do that to another person either. My real life friends must be somewhat on same level as me or else they do not fit inside of my life, that means Facebook too.

If I unfriended you and you really wanted to try to be friends, then look for other avenues of friendship people, such as acknowledging my presence and hello smile to you in public.

End rant.

Bad Moments Can’t Make a Bad Day, Unless You Let Them

One of my Facebook friends had an interesting quote up one day and it basically promoted the fact that we don’t have bad days, we all have bad moments that some use to create a fully bad day. I have to believe this to be true, being the sort of thinker I am, makes me redirect my mind to something better. I firmly believe that if you allow one down or bad moment take you for a whirl, that is focusing on this bad moment, then it will only have more bad moments to follow which in turn makes a bad day.

If you make a conscious decision to take that bad moment, find some small aspect of positive from it, and move forward to make the day a better one, you will find the day will only get brighter. It is extremely difficult to turn a bad moment upside down, but many go by the saying “fake it til you make it” and sometimes faking a little smile to get your mind boosted in the right direction isn’t all that bad of an idea! Just remember, don’t fake it til you make it forever, simply forcing a smile through this bad moment, is fine, but faking a smile through out your days, does not necessarily change the outcome of your day, now does it?

One must fully believe in their heart and soul that this bad moment can be overcome, that life will go on and life will go on happily. We all create our happily ever after, so do not allow one bad moment become more bad moments and in turn creating a bad day when all you had to do was turn lips upward to a smile, for when you smile so do those around you, and then that so called fake smile will be heart felt as you watch your family smile in return from your smile.

I Am Suppose To Do What?

I work every morning from about 8am until lunch time, from then on I am on, what i like to call “Mama Duty”, where I am not allowed to touch email, blogs, computers, nothing again until the munchkins are asleep. This wasn’t always the rule or the case in my home but ever since I stopped my virtual assistant business and focused on writing things have become more peaceful and fun in the house!

You see, I really only “need” a few hours a week to do all of my writing and in turn make enough money to support the family but getting my words of wisdom to the world are important to me and as with any self employed type of job, you have to take time to market yourself so that you in turn make money.

The four hours a day I spend online sometimes turn into me having 7 tabs open in FireFox with my brain on overdrive. You see, I want to write, stumble posts, digg posts and interact on Twitter as well as Facebook but instead of taking each task as one at a time, I try to do it all at once. Maybe it’s my multi-tasking personality or maybe I have Blog ADD, whatever it is, I can not seem to focus on one task at a time.

Every morning I swear this morning will be different, I will open only two tabs; email and one blog, but it never fails, before I know it I have 7 tabs open and although I get a ton done, I never leave the computer feeling fully “complete” in my tasks.