I would invite you to visit this common saying today and think about whether or not you fully think the grass is greener on the other side? For some the grass may truly be greener on the other side, these are cases when the relationship is simply dead and gone. The situations when a couple has just tried all possible avenues of making this relationship work  and it just doesn’t work. Many people who marry have the ability to grow together as a couple and individual but some simply are not good at growing together while still being an individual.

If there is a married person who saw a “hottie” and they spoke and seem to have clicked instantly, I would invite them to truly think twice before leaving their spouse for another person. It’s a dangerous situation to get into if you are truly leaving someone for another person, this would usually end up being a rebound situation and wouldn’t last long. Most who have left a spouse for another person had found that down the road the “magic” died and they were in a relationship much similar to the one they had thrown away for this “hottie”.

I get lonely and want to latch onto anyone for adult interaction, been there, done that. I truly understand what it’s like to feel alone whether you are married or single .. I have been in both situations. Hence the reason I am divorced, I didn’t get divorced for anyone else, it was what was best for my own self and children as well as my ex husband.

One never knows what the future holds and as long as you are living life for what you firmly believe in and giving your all – the grass will eventually be greener on the right side for you! Don’t give up and tread lightly when thinking about leaving  a marriage that was once healthy & vibrant, one must be certain they are thinking with a clear head before moving onto another path in life.

NO. Can you imagine setting up the perfect proposal and getting down on one knee professing your love to someone when you await her reply and she says no? Me neither. That would be so embarrassing, devastating and heart breaking, right? But this is what love is all about – taking a chance, going out on a limb. Modern technology has made it easier for people to lose that communication bond that holds so many 70 year anniversary couples together, you see those older lovely couples had to talk to each other. They could not hide behind a computer screen, a cell phone text message or run to hide away from their spouse in their home office to chat on Facebook with other friends. They only had each other.

When I see a picture of a couple celebrating a long anniversary or hear that my Great Grandparents are celebrating another year of marriage, I tend to get teary eyed. Thanks Single Dad Laughing – you made me cry with all those photos the other day, but only because one was of an older couple celebrating 70 years of marriage, and I only shed a couple happy tears.

It seems that fear of the unknown keeps some men at bay, they hide behind that fear and refuse to go out on a limb with the perfect, most sweetest proposal for the fear of the love of their life saying no.  Hell if I let the fear of the word no keep me from anything in life I wouldn’t be here working from home, supporting three children. Heck the reply no makes me stronger, you see if you take the time to go all out and propose to the love of your life and she says no, well now you realize that maybe you both are not on the same path, or maybe she just doesn’t feel ready for marriage quite yet.

You see, if you don’t go out on a limb you will live your life in question, surrounded by fear. The adventure of life begins when you go out on a limb and face your fears, do what you know in your heart is what you want and everything else will fall into line with that when the time is right.

Okay I want to hear it – have any of you proposed and she said NO? Maybe you are the girl who said no?  Please share your story with me, I may feature your story on my site! {with your permission of course}

After reading many articles about how cheating made people’s relationships stronger, I have to ask; is it really ever okay to cheat on a spouse? One with a guilty conscious could not cheat and truly lie about it, but what if you are honest and your spouse forgives you. Forgiveness is a powerful tool and the communication between you and your spouse about why this temptation became action could truly create a better bond. You see, most cheat for a reason, it’s an an underlying feeling of lack of importance in the relationship or that something is missing.

While I personally don’t feel deception solves anything, and I do feel if you have cheated on your current spouse then they have a right to know the truth I have seen deception work magic on some marriages. You would be surprised what one can handle if they truly love you when you are honest with them.  Some say that having an affair helped them gain courage to open up about what they needed in their marriage while others said it helped get something they were missing in the marriage.

To answer my question, is it every okay to cheat on a spouse? I say no, but ultimately it is up to you fight the temptations that walk into your life and make decisions based on what is best for yourself. If a marriage isn’t working, it is 50% your fault and 50% the spouses fault; they say it takes two to tango, well it also takes two to not tango.

Do you get what I am saying? So have you ever cheated and how did that work out for you?

It’s like I need a kick in the ass to get out of my house. I swear I am such a home body it’s not even funny. I would rather have company over, big BBQ’s and bonfires yet when it comes time for me to get out to visit someone else, I shrug my shoulders and just don’t want to go.

I recall when the boys father and I started dating that he played in a band on weeknights and I was prego with Aj so I could get out on the nights to see him practice when Ki was with her Dad. I always wanted to go, was totally game for it until it came time to actually put my feet out the door. J had to boot my ass out of the door because I would just get so nervous about going. Of course, I had a blast and enjoyed it when I got there, it’s just that initial kick I need to get me headed there.

As I sit around with children all week and all weekend long I find myself reading a good book and wishing I had that life, the grandparents that took the children so you could work on your relationship and keep it strong. The in laws that help you out, mine lived too far away to help although if they had been closer they totally would have helped us out.

I just long to have someone I can call up and say “hey can AJ and K sleep over tonight, I need some time alone?”. I don’t have that. Never have. No wonder marriage failed, I mean what marriage would succeed in the long run when intimacy and passion is important to you? Sure if you can stay in the mindset that “we are raising children now & our time comes later” then you can succeed in marriage, but when you are like me and it’s vitally important to have alone time with your loved one, it’s extremely difficult to not fail.

So .. I am at the point where I need a break but yet I can’t really get one and when I do get the time to get away I just don’t want to leave.

I never really had a plan to have children, I loved children and often babysat for other people growing up.  I just never had that dream of a white picket fence, a marriage and children.  That is not until I graduated high school and found myself in a serious relationship. For some reason I started loving the idea of having children young and being able to still have a blast when they were adults. I wanted to be young enough to enjoy my grandchildren when and if I had any. I wanted to be able to do whatever I felt like doing when I became the retirement age. I didn’t want to be changing diapers when I should be relaxing.

Right now I have my three children and they are my world, whether I like it all of the time or not, they are my world. I love being a mother, I feel at times it’s the only thing in this world I can do right. I suck at relationships and I don’t do too well with female friendships. I wish I could have a large extended family, but my family isn’t into that sort of thing. Well part of my family is, but they have found their lives out of the normal plan and don’t have the time to come hang with me and the kids as often as I wish they could.

My sons are such a handful that I rarely get a break because no one wants to take them on at one time. I swear I was born with some patience that my parents never had. I love my parents, but they certainly are not as patient as I am. Maybe I got it from my Grandmother, she seemed patient to me back in the day and so does my Great Grandmother. Very loving, nurturing mothers.

So even though I don’t have a big as I want family, I think my three children are enough for me … for now.