And she has Gone Red

One day I was craving a change …. should I pierce my nose for the third time in my life Or maybe it’s the fourth time? Should I pierce my tongue again? NO. NO.

Should I cut my hair off short and layered again? NO.

Then I decided that no matter how long I had taken to grow out all of that dead dyed hair, that I needed a change…

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While I love my naturally dark hair, and even those greys sticking out … I wanted to go with a different color, something that popped, sure I didn’t like idea of killing my hair with hair dye again after years of getting rid of that dead dyed hair, but again I NEEDED A CHANGE…

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So to the store I went because Rite Aid was having a crazy deal on the brand hair dye I enjoy using …. a red color is what I went with but …

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It went a bit of a deeper, brighter, nearly punk red to me … the above picture looks okay and probably the one I am showing below…

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But when I look at the hair just right in that sunlight that appears every so often in NH Winter, I see a bit purple of a color …

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Which, I guess, can be a bit of a cool change, right?

Well so that’s my story, I needed a change and so it was my hair that took a beating …. I am now a red head.

Thankful for my Patience and Sense of Humor

My daughter is going through what most call the tween years. This is when their hormones are changing and it’s making me try to cycle up with her hormones. In a nutshell, having a daughter in her tween years means that Mother Nature plays this trick on the female who doesn’t have as strong of hormones, maybe it’s my old age so now my body says “look there’s hormones in the air. Let’s sync up” and I am an emotional wreck most days.

I was trying to figure out the other day why my emotions seem off kilter and then it dawned on me, I have two tween girls around. Not only my daughter but the boyfriends daughter and well that makes for me becoming quite the hormonal mess. I not only have to deal with my hormones trying to sync up with two tween girls, but I have to deal with my daughter’s mood flashes that even she hates having. Last night, after a mood flash for absolutely no reason, my daughter said “Mama I don’t know why I do that. I get in this funk for no reason. Then bam I am all set and happy as if that down moment never happened.” I simply replied “it’s called female hormones, welcome to the club” when my daughter promptly replied “I don’t want to be part of that club”.

I laughed. Neither do I sweet daughter. Neither do I.

So this morning when her hair wasn’t cooperating and I could just not get it perfectly right for her, I knew it was all my fault. I control the heavens and the Earth, if her hair has bumps that won’t go straight, if her hair won’t set just the way she wants, it’s all my fault – even if I didn’t touch her hair. That’s just how it goes when a child is trying to deal with the fun club of Female Hormones.

Thankfully I have a lot of patience, a close relationship with my daughter and love because without those and a fantastic sense of humor, most days I would be close to ending up in a looney bin.

It is Friday, right?!

Dandruff and Psoriasis on Scalp During Winter

If there is one thing I hate it is the Winter time in New Hampshire, not just because of the cold weather but because of how dry my scalp gets. Each Winter I end up with crazy amounts of dandruff that shine through my dark black hair, no matter what I do. What is worse is that when I was a young girl, I was diagnosed with psoriasis, which is basically like itchy, patchy dry skin areas on your body and lucky me ended up with it on my scalp, rarely does my body break out anymore with this condition. It all happens during the Winter months, any warm weather season I am fine. No dry, itchy, break out skin issues.

I am on the constant look out for various remedies to help my dry scalp or even just help alleviate the dang dandruff that shows so heavily in the dark black hair I was born with. Sure I could dye my hair, but honestly I am trying to grow out this amazingly shiny dark black hair I have because I miss my natural hair. As my hair grows longer I am noticing two things, dry scalp and grey hairs have taken over my once beautifully black only hair. Sigh.

There was this remedy I found online for making your own shampoo that can help improve scalp condition, http://wikitalks.com/2013/01/how-to-make-shampoo-to-improve-scalp-condition-2/, whether or not I will use this – I am not sure, but at least it’s gives me hope that there are options out their online for less expensive home remedy shampoos that may help assist in scalp issues.

The True Feeling of Confidence

I have been venturing outside of the house more often lately and seeing what’s around the local area. I have this clear mind about being more involved in the community and attending family friendly type events. I also am more comfortable socializing with random people around here, more so than I have been in the past. This is of course a wonderful feeling.

The other day I saw this gorgeous girl, she was tan, make up on, not too skinny and not too large, hair straightened .. she was just simply beautiful. In the past I have been able to admire other beautiful people, whether male or female, as I do enjoy people watching. The thing that occurred to me on this particular day was that I no longer found myself feeling unworthy of my appearance. No matter how confident I have become in comparison to my younger years, I still struggle with weight gain and keeping up with good eating habits, so that means sometimes I struggle to truly 100% love my whole body with and without clothes on.

This day, I realized that this other woman was beautiful but she was beautiful in her own way. I would never be that way, the straightened hair every day, the make up and the figure for I am not that person. I was not born with their genes and I don’t want to be a clone of someone else’s body structure; I want to be me. I look a lot like my family, we have big hips, small legs and a mid section that most would probably love to have disappear. I am top heavy, which does not run fully through my family but does with some relatives.

I have curves, and I have beautiful eyes and a wonderful smile that is contagious! I am happy and I love me, but to truly remind myself that I do love who I am I had to see this woman, so beautiful and tan, to realize that I don’t want to be her, I want to be ME. I love my body and am thankful to realize with 100% confidence that I am not envious of a smaller than me body, better than me tan, for no one else can make me feel less worthy unless I allow myself to have those feelings. I refuse to feel inadequate any longer when around people who I feel are much more beautiful than me. I don’t even have to second guess it, remind myself or anything; I simply know that I am and feel more confident and happy with my body structure. I love me without any doubts and because of this new found realization after a somewhat trying Winter time, I am standing taller and smiling more again.

So remember, whether you are like me and people watch just to find that you feel, even if only for a moment, that another person is more beautiful than you; that you are not to think that way. You are unique, you are beautiful in your own special way and that is what makes the world an awesome place to live in, that we can all appreciate each others uniqueness!

Finding a good prom hairstyle for my curly-haired daughter

Guest post written by Carrie Lincoln

It shouldn’t be all that surprising that my daughter is having a tough time finding a hairstyle that she thinks will work on her hair for prom. She’s like me and has some of the curliest hair around. It can be really tough because you have to think so much about what a hairstyle will do to your curls before you try it. But we’re right on the hunt to find that perfect updo for her.

We’ve been looking online to see what we can find. We’ve been mainly looking at red carpet photos of stars who have curly hair and when we were doing that a few nights ago I saw some information on debt consolidation. I’ve been wanting to look into consolidating my debt for a few months now and I think this is a great opportunity to finally do that.

She’s been looking at a lot of Taylor Swift’s updos because she has curly hair, but I’m also pretty sure that she straightens and then curls her hair a lot. We’ll have to keep looking and see what’s going to work for her.

My Birthday is coming Again

I am turning 30 on Friday and with that comes my needs of wanting ME time and getting out to celebrate. I think I will be getting my hair cut, layered and colored. You see I tried to do a home highlighting kit not that long ago and my hair turned out multiple colors. I want my color to be closer to the natural hair color of black so that I can work on growing my hair out to be healthy again.

Oh and the greys will show more I am sure. I can already see a ton on the top of my head.

I may get my first professional massage EVER which is cool. I really hope that @mommadjane can really get that for me as a gift, she has offered but it’s hard to figure out which local one to go to.

I love my life and I love my kids. I am looking forward to cake with the kids, my daughter is gone so it will be just the boys and me enjoying some cake together!

So in a few more days I will be heading into the 30 years…. and I am looking forward to it!