Each day this Summer for the past couple of weeks my sons have been more and more aggressive with each other. They do this for fun, it’s not an angry fighting type aggression but it’s getting worse and worse. While rough and tumble play is good for boys, at what cost? These days I have been forced to dictate some major rules with their rough n tumble play time because feet kicking up at each other is not something I am okay with. My boys are going to be 7 and 5 this month and with that comes a jump in testosterone I am assuming because what else would cause complete ruckus like this?
My youngest, who has always been relatively easy. Spoiled. But easy to deal with. Is now the mean one who is often found instigating his older brother and hitting for no reason. This kid has multiple time outs, I am not a spanking Mom normally but I have even tried to spank his butt, one swift spank on the bum, doesn’t work. I feel consistency is the key, and so I feel comfortable with time outs, so I enforce those. Nothing sinks in with either boy.
The almost seven year old is bipolar and his meds are new with a dosage still not 100%, so he was real rough for a couple of weeks. I can only think that my youngest is learning the behavior of his sibling. This is something that is not able to deter because they are together 24/7 and with bipolar comes behaviors that totally suck when a medication is not working properly. Right now, I think that my sons bipolar medication is good, at least his symptoms are showing improvement but after a few weeks of utter chaos, it’s going to take time and hard work to get the little one back on track.
I cannot leave the boys alone long enough to take a shower anymore. I cannot leave them together unattended playing together. I cannot do dishes and the list goes on. The only thing I can do lately is to simply focus on them. Do activities, try to ensure I am spending time with each of them as equally as possible while still tending and spending time with my daughter. The juggling act is getting harder as Summer comes halting to an end, but I am goig to do everything in my power to enjoy the next couple of weeks because after that? My baby heads to all day school and with that his siblings enter into their year of school as well.
I am sad that Summer seems to be ending in an overwhelming bang, but I am happy that I am trying my darnedest to focus on the good times and create more happy times than overwhelming ones.