My three year old has zero fear in his Mama or any other adult authority figure for that matter. He just goes on his merry little way all day long. Hanging from anything he can grasp with his hands or feet. Pulling and pushing on things he shouldn’t be touching. Running wild all day long.

I am thankful that usually once he hits his bed he goes to sleep, but lately he has been rough at bedtime too. Recently I made a personal pact with myself that this kid would start having some boundaries for once and for all. This little boy needs to know Mama is boss and means business.

SO my new getting back to meaning what I say to the three year old business started…. with no cartoons before bedtime routine unless he stops peeing in his pants and goes to bed in a timely fashion. I do understand that even adults need some time to settle their mind once they lay their heads down so I don’t expect my three year old to lay on his bed, get his song sung to him then get tucked in and be asleep instantly; although that would be ideal … it’s not realistic.

Lately my three year old son has gone from being potty trained, except overnight when he wore a pull up to peeing in his pants all day long. It’s the most frustrating part of my parenting, aside from some personal issues one of my kids is having, and I have no clue how to handle this situation. I am about ready to have him be inside half naked all day so he realizes peeing his pants all of a sudden is not so funny nor cool.

I think since I have started to enforce some rules and boundaries finally with my three year old that he is starting to test less limits and realizing that Mama means business. Now if I can get him to remember this without having to place him in a time out or take things away all day. I do assume it will get easier once he really truly believes I am not putting up with bad behavior anymore.

There is this country song that has been playing often on the radio and part of the lyrics go like this “When I think about cheating, I think about you leaving”. It’s funny because when I had thought about temptation in the past I always had a similar mindset, although I didn’t think about the person leaving, I thought about the pain I would be inflicted upon another human being.

I am a person who feels if you are not happy with the person you are with, then you need to be honest with them and move forward. I have seen all too often what having another person on the back burner does, usually the back burner person doesn’t last in a long term relationship with you because you are leaning on them to move forward from another broken relationship.

Believe me, I have needs, wants and desires just like the next person, however, I think it makes a person stronger when they fight that urge or temptation to stray. Having a bit of self control makes you a stronger, more trustworthy person and in turn your life will be a lot happier.

Karma comes to mind with cheating, you see I believe in “what goes around comes around” and I have had my fair share of karma; both good and bad. I wouldn’t wish negative karma on any single person in the world so please think before you act and if you have children; think about whether you want them to take the easy way out of things or the more, lesson learned difficult way out of things? Doing things the right way doesn’t always mean easier. The next time you think about cheating, just think about that person leaving….

I know you all have them, those dating deal breakers. If you are a single person out in the dating world you have a list of specific things that are quite simply put … deal breakers.

A deal break is something that is not acceptable to you, something that no matter how awesome this person is, the fact that they exhibit this quality or characteristic you will not be able to continue dating them.

I have a few deal breakers and here are the most important ones for me:

• Doesn’t have their own child or children {never works for me ever}
• Aggressive or overly jealous, often wondering who or what you are doing. {no way dude}
• Wants more children. { I am thinking three is plenty for me }
• Insecure. {need I say more?}
• Believes in trusting a person when they prove that they can be trusted instead of trusting a person until they give you a reason not to be trusted. {buh-bye man}

To some those may not seem like big deals and out of my list above I would say the whole having more children idea may not be a 100% deal breaker but honestly I wanted to get fixed after my last born for a reason, I hate being pregnant. If I was an awesome pregnant person who was sweet as sweet could be 90% of the time I would totally be up to have a huge family OR if I knew 150% that I was guaranteed to be with this person for the rest of my life & never have to share my child in separate homes, then maybe just maybe that option wouldn’t be considered a deal breaker. Let’s be honest though, as it stands it can be a huge deal breaker for this chick.

So … do you have those deal breakers that are simply NO WAY DUDE when it comes to dating? I know you all have them, even if you are no longer dating I bet you had some back in the days of dating, I am curious, I want to hear them! Leave comment below!

How frustrating is the dating scene for others? For me, it’s a nightmare sometimes. It seems all men are physically attracted to me and feel it’s love at first site. I try to explain to them they are simply thinking with their “other head” and I’m sure you know what I mean but they are convinced we are meant to be and in love. I will admit there is one or two people I have feelings for in a way that I wonder what the future holds, if I am meant to be with one of them or not, but I don’t feel in love with either of them like that.

I don’t understand why men think they have to tell a woman they love them to try to get them in bed?! I would prefer if someone wanted to try to sleep with me that they be honest and upfront. I am a big girl and I can handle my self and handle the honesty. I will admit there have been a couple of guys I have talked to that are straight up about wanting “no strings attached” and they are good friends of mine but I won’t sleep with them.

Here’s the deal; growing up I always looked to men for sex to feel loved or whatever I needed back years and years ago. I got my need to sleep with people stage out of my system. I am now a happy, single mother of three who always puts her children and business first. That is what my life revolves around at this time; children and business. I don’t have time to play games, I barely have time for dinner dates and I quite simply just don’t need the smooth talking jerks to come into my life and waste any of my time or theirs.

Dating is fun, it’s great getting to talk to a ton of new people and with text messages it’s even easier to get to know someone virtually before ever meeting for a dinner date. Text messages have saved me from meeting a lot of dumb men since I’ve been back on the dating bandwagon! As much as I feel texts or even emails can be very impersonal I love that they have opened the doors to getting to know someone a little bit better before spending hours upon hours on the phone away from my busy life just to find out they are complete jerks!

Dating can just plain suck, especially when you do not need anyone else in your life but simply want companionship, someone to cuddle up with to watch a movie every other weekend when the munchkins are gone. That my friends is exactly what I need a good friend that I can snuggle up to watching a movie on the couch, trust with me when I have a few beers and someone who I can call if having a bad day. I know there is a man out there who would love to be that person for me, it’s just weeding out all the jerks before I find him.

If you are dating you really should read this:

I joined this website called MyYearbook, great site, it’s fun and I get to do what I do best; flirt and be social. Yes I am guilty of being a bit flirtatious at times, not so much when I am in a relationship but I’m single so it’s safe to say I am very flirty. I mean nothing by my flirts, it’s all in good fun and most every one who knows me well knows that I am not one to go for a one night stand or do much more than flirt. Now back in the day, well that’s a completely different story, I am now in love with myself and know that a one night stand is going to do nothing but destroy my self esteem that I have worked way too hard to build up.

So this website, MyYearbook.com is pretty neat and fun, however, it is the most drama filled site I have ever seen. I can’t believe how catty some of the females are on there and as much as I would love to say that the men on there are great, in all honesty some of them are only on there looking for a one night stand. Most online men are there for flirting and one night stands, now men don’t take offense there are many online men out there who are caring and sweet individuals but the majority of them have ruined it for those who are caring and sweet.

I have watched on this site as girls fight over who their “number one” man is and it’s forbidden to send stickers to them flirting because after all they are number one on their list which means they are in a relationship, even if they are seriously nothing more than just “top friends” on a website. I have debated on removing my account from this website because the drama is intense, but there are some people on there I have formed friendships with who I would not be able to communicate with otherwise, because I am not giving them my phone number or email address to gain contact to my personal life. Some of them do read this blog, some do read my other blog but hey what I put out on my websites are strictly what I want everyone to know, I don’t tell all the “behind the scenes” information.

Anyways, I have to giggle as I watch grown woman fight over a man and act as if they are in high school again. I feel like my every move on that website is watched because of some of the woman on there, but I figure if they want to watch me I should feel special and loved. After all it simply means they are jealous, right!?