Turn on the television and you are sure to see a reality tv show about what life should be like or is supposedly like, a commercial that pushes you to lose weight or look a specific way. Media is an outlet that society uses to push a specific view of what people should be and look like. It takes a strong person to overcome that media push to be a certain way, it takes dedication to figure out who you are and to just be yourself.

Now not only do parents need to teach their children to be individuals, this is best taught through being an individual your own self, we now have to teach our children that reality TV is not the way to go. That reality TV is fake, it’s highly dramatized because the drama antics sell the show.  The best way to teach your children that reality TV is fake is to not let them watch it but what if when they get older they start seeing these shows and think that’s the real world?

I am a firm believer that you must teach your child about everything in this world; the good, the bad and the ugly. For you don’t want your child looking to their peers for answers on what reality TV is, what alcohol and drugs are or what a real relationship is. Peers are great to turn to but we need to teach our children to have a mind of their own, we are their full time caregivers. The best way to teach your children what their normal is, is to teach them that the word normal is defined by our own self, not by our environmental factors.

I am a firm believer that every parent needs a break from their children, it’s healthy for both child and adult. What happens when you are a parent who never gets a break? There’s that child that no family will take, there’s that one child not yet in school all day and so it’s you and them all day long, 24/7 and you never seem to get more than a moments break when you go to the grocery store for a rare trip without this child.

Being around hyperactive children or moody children 24/7 means that you could in turn start to feel their symptoms too. Becoming ADD is something I swear has happened with me having to keep up with the boys who have extremely high energy levels. My three year and and I are always together and he is on high speed from the moment he crawls out of bed until the moment he falls asleep.

I can’t seem to keep my mind on one subject at a time, if I don’t speak when a thought enters my mind then that thought disappears forever. This means I tend to interrupt people and I don’t mean to be rude it’s just that if i don’t either speak or write that thought down then it will be forever lost in space. I am trying to find ways to keep my head on track but honestly the only thing that seems to help at any level is writing about my life, spreading positive thoughts and writing about ways I work to keep my mindset in a positive direction.

The weeks I can’t seem to get a moment to write make me even worse with ADD like symptoms where I can’t focus, I get sad, I start sulking and lose my positive mindset. Writing has become something that assists in keeping my bad thoughts at bay and believe me with all I have gone through and all I do go through on a daily basis, anger does appear in my feelings here and there.

Although I’ve learned ways to cope with my bitter feelings towards certain people who have come and gone in my life, when writing isn’t possible I can feel the symptoms of lack of focus, bitterness and anger as well as the question of “what if” or “why” enter my brain. The problem is my questions regarding what ifs or whys will never fully be answered so there’s no reason in thinking about them. So I have to wonder, is it truly possible for a parent to have the symptoms of a child diagnosis when they spend 24/7 with that child? I say yes.

My kids are famous for getting songs stuck in my head and so I thought I would share with you just a taste of what songs my kids like to annoy me with so that all day long I get to sing these over and over in my head, creating a lack of focus but always remembering my morning with the kids before they went off to school…

Flobots – I can Ride my Bike with NO Handlebars

Taylor Swift – Mean

Selena Gomez & The Scene – Love you Like a Love Song

Just last night I was saying how I feel like I need to just cry and let it all out. So much is going on that makes me sad, this sadness is deep right to the center of my soul. I have hope and I have faith, but that doesn’t make the sadness subside, it’s there deep within.

I am a strong person. I can handle a lot of situations that get tossed in my direction, but sometimes even the strongest of people hit their limit. That is me. I am at my limit and feel like if only I had a local girlfriend to come hug me hard, just hold me and let me cry on their shoulders I would feel relieved.

There’s nothing to talk about, nothing to write – I’ve gotten it all out of my head, but it’s the heart that is deeply saddened and for this, the only solution is a long, deep cry. So I will pull out the tissues and bury myself in a blanket to just let the tears flow so I can move forward and be stronger to be the mom and person I need to be for my family.

Although some romantic movies have pieces of real life relationships, most are really just depicting some fantasy relationship that only happens when one lives their life as if a storybook character is their real person. It’s extremely difficult to watch all of the romantic movies that they have on the market and not find some small hope that your love life could even be a small sample of what you see on the big screen.

For me, romantic movies do only one thing for me; remind me I don’t have the communication level I wish I had. Oh I can talk, ramble on for hours and easily state what is on my mind, but to find a person who can communicate back within the same time period is difficult. It’s easy to say you want communication to change between your partner and your self, but it’s harder to find out why the lack of communication is there.

If the lack of communication has been there from day one, well maybe you need to do some thinking because if this is truly how your partner in life is wired and they do not feel it’s something that needs to be changed within their own self, then it won’t change. We are who we are and no one can change another person!

For me, watching a romantic film in the present day has me longing for a partner who I can bounce off of with ease, we laugh, we joke and above all we simply just talk about everything. For me, watching a romantic movie in the past created this vision of some high sprung love affair that only happens in either movies or the first few months of dating a person.

After reading the stories being shared with me for the I Met My Love Online series happening at Happily Blended during the month of February, I have found that these real life stories are not only entertaining and giving hope to my readers, but they are showing me the “real” side of dating, love and life.