Is it Ever Okay to Cheat On a Spouse?

After reading many articles about how cheating made people’s relationships stronger, I have to ask; is it really ever okay to cheat on a spouse? One with a guilty conscious could not cheat and truly lie about it, but what if you are honest and your spouse forgives you. Forgiveness is a powerful tool and the communication between you and your spouse about why this temptation became action could truly create a better bond. You see, most cheat for a reason, it’s an an underlying feeling of lack of importance in the relationship or that something is missing.

While I personally don’t feel deception solves anything, and I do feel if you have cheated on your current spouse then they have a right to know the truth I have seen deception work magic on some marriages. You would be surprised what one can handle if they truly love you when you are honest with them.  Some say that having an affair helped them gain courage to open up about what they needed in their marriage while others said it helped get something they were missing in the marriage.

To answer my question, is it every okay to cheat on a spouse? I say no, but ultimately it is up to you fight the temptations that walk into your life and make decisions based on what is best for yourself. If a marriage isn’t working, it is 50% your fault and 50% the spouses fault; they say it takes two to tango, well it also takes two to not tango.

Do you get what I am saying? So have you ever cheated and how did that work out for you?

Two Days In a Daze

When times get rough for me I don’t keep moving forward, but I also try not to sink into a major state of depression. I pride myself in being very aware of my body, emotions and am in tune with what is going on inside of my head for the most part. The past couple of weeks have been very difficult for me, let’s just say some major financial changes have left me working longer than normal hours, which I actually enjoy, and trying to make sure to make ends meat so that I can stay afloat.

Decisions have been made to cut any extras from my budget, although there were few extras I cut the few that I could cut. For instance I can’t cut the electric as we need that to live in a home, I can’t cut the Internet as I need that for my income and I can’t cut rent for I need a roof over my children’s heads.

I took two days and didn’t talk much, stared up into the sky often and simply worked on finding my inner peace. That place inside of me that allows me to be balanced and positive. I found a pull towards faith and questioning of religion; something I have very little education about. I found myself wondering what decisions need to be made in my life to allow my children to flourish and to allow me to be the person I need to be in order to succeed in life.

After spending two days in a daze and crashing so hard for two days I found that something needed to be done. I couldn’t be falling asleep so hard that no one could wake me and this happened twice in one week. My father mentioned me being low on iron which wouldn’t surprise me but without health insurance I can’t just go rush to the doctors every time I feel like something is “off”. So I just assume that too much has been placed in my hands and I have let go of things/situations I have no control over.

It is extremely difficult to just “let go” but if you find that certain situations in life are getting you down yet you can truly have no control over them then just let t hem go. It does you and your family no good to let what you can’t control burden you. I have let go and when I finally decided to let go of those things I can not control, I found an inner peace, a smile came upon my face and I no longer feel so tired I could crash.

I am at a better place because I am now able to let go of those situations I can not control and have put my faith in positive thinking with the idea of moving forward in a new direction in life, one that allows me to be more confident in my feelings; to not just say what’s on my  mind but have meaning and actions behind it. You only live once, make sure it’s the best life possible for you!

Craigslist: Sell, Buy or Scams?

While I continue to use Craigslist as a place to find items I may need for cheap or free as well as sell items on, I must admit it seems Craigslist is getting more full of scams than anything else.

In my local area I tend to look at Vermont and New Hampshire Craigslist the most and well honestly I haven’t had much luck with selling nor finding many legit job openings on this website as of late.

I have found when I list a high ticket item that the responses received sound something like this “I interested in product you have listed on Craigslist. I am out of the country but you can ship to me with payment to PayPal” or something worse with horrible English. It’s always the same type of scam though, someone wanting you to give them your PayPal email and then they will do who knows what with this information.

It seems scammers will do whatever they can to get a hold of your information and sell it to others or use the information to ruin your credit, life and much more! While I continue to use Craigslist to try to sell items I no longer need and would rather have cash for bills for, I must say it’s starting to get  a bit discouraging.

Craigslist is set up to be a free marketplace where people can connect, share community news, find pets to adopt, find projects for gigs, writing and much much more. As with any free marketplace you will end up with having to be much more aware of scams and people who are just out there to do you wrong. So please be careful when meeting someone from Craigslist and be sure not to provide any personal information to someone you do not know.

Practicing Writing Skills

I have always loved writing but poetry was my main area of expertise and I still have my original poems collected as a journal and Word document on my computer. The past few days I decided to look up some writings I had saved on my blog folder in the home server and share them with you as a way to help other people critique my writing skills.

I am looking forward to you all taking time each day to read through the previous blog posts titled “Fictional Writing” or “Fictional Writing Practice” prior to the name of the blog article and truly leaving feedback in the comment section. Don’t worry I can handle productive feedback that may not be 100% positive, as long as it’s productive feedback.

If you wish to simply be negative, well those comments will be removed as there is no room in my life for negativity. You can leave an honest opinion that may not be suited as a positive but please make it a productive comment that will help me better my writing, instead of trying to just put my writing skills down.

I look forward to your thoughts!

Fictional Writing Practice: Sleepless Nights

I am started to get annoyed that my sons never sleep consistently through the night. It seems that once we get one of them to sleep the other has issues. The pediatrician put one son on medication to help him sleep but honestly it has been about three – four weeks of him being on this medication with little results. This son still sleeps the same way he always has, the first two nights he was on this new med he slept right thru the night but we feel it was due to his body coming off of the melatonin he had been taking before.

At age two the psychiatrist or pediatrician recommended melatonin as a natural remedy to help this boy sleep through the night, it worked to slow him down and help him be calm before bed but nothing has ever helped him stay sleeping through the night. Our second night at the new house I laid with my son, as I usually do before bed, and I noticed that his pulse was going very fast and that his ear was turning red. I happened to sit up slowly and peek at him to see if he was okay to find that he was sleeping.

I recall someone once told me to check his pulse rate while he is in a relax state and if it was going too fast then it was a sign of ADHD. I don’t know what to believe, who to rely on or anything anymore when it comes to this boy and his not sleeping through the night, his mood changes, his anger problem and his reluctance to listen to a thing you say.

Fictional Writing Practice: Surrounded By Boxes

Boxes surround a mother, a father and three children. All items have been organized in a way that we can now enjoy the extra space we have as a family.  The third night in our new home our son figured out that there is a bathroom upstairs for the kids and this boy is happy to pee very five minutes as a way to procrastinate bedtime. Prior to moving our things into this house we thought about utilizing the extra room off of our master bedroom for one of the boys, however, since neither of them consistently sleeps thru the night time hours we felt it would be silly to separate them.

The man of the house and I now have our own master bedroom, master bathroom {which actually is everyone’s bathroom during daytime hours} and a private office off of the master bedroom. I am so excited that we can fit the man’s corner desk into the office space as well as my desk with extra room to spare for cabinets, printer, and whatever else we decide to place in that office space. There is a door on the office which means if I want to get up and work without the boys seeing that Mama is home, I can simply roll out of bed and go into the office to work … but wait … that would mean no coffee, guess we need a small one cup coffee maker for the office. What is an office without a coffee maker anyways?!

We are happily in our new home, boxes everywhere but our beds, clothing and televisions are all set up along with our Wii. Now once I can get a new darn remote for the Wii I will happily start my exercise routine. I plan to purchase the man and myself our own Wii remotes because AJ has thrown our current remotes so often that they barely work anymore.

Loving the new house, new yard, new space and fresh start for our family! Can’t wait to get completely settled in and unpacked but we took a break on the last night of the man’s vacation to enjoy a movie night together. Our backs hurt and our shoulders are ready to be massaged!

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