And I can’t wait .. although I walk around my house looking at everything I need to get done around here and am having a really difficult time finding the OK in my head that I am going on this trip. I am heading to NYC with hours to waste when I first get there.
I recall my first and only trip to NYC, we drove the five hours there (I am flying this time), with three kids two of which were still in diapers. We got a great deal on a hotel from PriceLine but they only had one bed and I couldn’t get to sleep with the three kids in same room with one bed .. .no way. Also we drove a suburban there and man you can’t park that thing in the city anywhere .. it was a mess.
We did watch Bob The Builder at The Beacon Theatre and we loved it, but other than that I was ready to go home. Pushing two boys in diapers in a double jogging stroller isn’t like pushing it in the country. I also had my daughter who seemed to think we were still in our small town and attempted to walk a few feet ahead of me, ummm no not in a big city my daughter!
So as I head to NYC I am curious to see my experience there without children adn with some great company .. Ragu and bloggers!
In my household you never know when a child is going to sleep. I am trying to take the positive path and focus on the fact that someday my children will sleep more than I want them too and become extremely lazy, well I do hope this is wrong, but it could happen!
Some nights I can get four hours straight of kids being asleep then other nights I am lucky to get an hour of quiet time to work or even just clean out my email inbox so I can attempt my work in the office.
Luckily my son, who is now five, will be heading off to get his tonsils and adenoids removed as did his sister when she was having sleep apnea. I really do hope that having this surgery will help my five year old sleep longer than four hours at a time and get into a deep sleep because for his whole life, I don’t think he has ever been in a deep sleep.
Neither have I for that matter… sigh…
You know the old saying “if they get the milk for free, why buy the cow” or something like that, right? Well basically that goes with relationships, sexual in nature. If you are allowing a man to get a piece of you and yet he never has to commit then why would he ever commit? I mean don’t get me wrong, I have read some stories about the lover turned spouse, however, those happy go lucky stories are few and far between.
With movies like Friends with Benefits and No Strings Attached as well as reality television glamorizing sexual only relationships it’s no wonder most young adults and teens think that sex is all you really need in life, don’t worry about the commitment part. I am a firm believer that it comes down to parenting to teach children about relationships and sex without commitment but the media doesn’t help make parenting any easier.
I loved the movies I referenced, however, it gets to a point where some young, beautiful single woman start thinking how awesome that type of relationship would be. You can have the freedom to be classified as “single” yet get laid whenever you want essentially. The problem with this scenario is that emotions get involved, regardless of who you are or how strong of a person you are! Physical attention and emotions almost go hand in hand, unless you have been so severely hurt in a past relationship that you are almost dead to the idea of any commitment.
I think that eventually sex with no strings attached will deteriorate a woman’s self esteem. Yeah you may feel hot n sexy as well as wanted, but in the long run you will eventually feel as if you are not good enough for the commitment part and start wondering what is wrong with you. In all reality there is nothing wrong with you, everyone is worthy of true love and a committed relationship. Stop putting yourself out there in a sexual way to gain the sexual only attention. Make people realize you are wroth more and you want more. This isn’t going to be an easy task but you don’t want to be the home-wrecker or the person who people know they can get a quick piece of ass from anytime they want.
Make yourself held to a higher standard and realize that in doing this you will get more rejections than not but in the long run you will see closing your legs and standing your ground with what you want in life will pay off!
As I spend my day running around with my head cut off I realize that time is something everyone could use a little bit more of. Yet then I am reminded that this is all the time we have so why not stop thinking “I need more time in the day” and start thinking “I can use the time in this day to be productive”. Sure, sounds simple enough, right?
When I am dealing with around 4 hours of sleep a night at one time and a child who sleeps about that much at one time then wakes his little brother up it seems there certainly doesn’t matter how much time is in a day because four hours straight is what I get usually.
I have been doing better at juggling with what time I have to ensure I am working and my accounting program I use is showing me that I am indeed getting the job done, yet in my mind I feel like I am never fully completing a days work or doing all of the fun things I want to do with my kids.
As I near the start of school for my middle child and already had my oldest start school I am realizing just how fast time does fly and how important it is to make good use of the time you have. Next week I will only have one of my three children home with me and I plan to make the best of this time because the following year I may have him go to preschool.
Time is something we all need more of, but do we need more time or more skills to use time we have efficiently?
Have this wish I wish tonight ….
Please allow me one night of extreme silence
To read a book or lounge around
Please let me be free one night
To sulk and eat ice cream in delight.
No children around to beg for my food
I think this wish would be really good.
Please oh please I wish I may I wish I might
Have this wish I wish tonight….
Mama is ready for a break before midnight.
I never really had a plan to have children, I loved children and often babysat for other people growing up. I just never had that dream of a white picket fence, a marriage and children. That is not until I graduated high school and found myself in a serious relationship. For some reason I started loving the idea of having children young and being able to still have a blast when they were adults. I wanted to be young enough to enjoy my grandchildren when and if I had any. I wanted to be able to do whatever I felt like doing when I became the retirement age. I didn’t want to be changing diapers when I should be relaxing.
Right now I have my three children and they are my world, whether I like it all of the time or not, they are my world. I love being a mother, I feel at times it’s the only thing in this world I can do right. I suck at relationships and I don’t do too well with female friendships. I wish I could have a large extended family, but my family isn’t into that sort of thing. Well part of my family is, but they have found their lives out of the normal plan and don’t have the time to come hang with me and the kids as often as I wish they could.
My sons are such a handful that I rarely get a break because no one wants to take them on at one time. I swear I was born with some patience that my parents never had. I love my parents, but they certainly are not as patient as I am. Maybe I got it from my Grandmother, she seemed patient to me back in the day and so does my Great Grandmother. Very loving, nurturing mothers.
So even though I don’t have a big as I want family, I think my three children are enough for me … for now.