Being Poor Isn’t Always Visible

Have you ever been so broke that you couldn’t pay for propane to heat the hot water or to use your stove? Have you ever been so out of cash that you had to live on kerosene being placed into your oil tank by the five gallon tanks you use for gas in your car or lawn mower? Have you ever lived on macaroni and cheese or worse yet Ramon noodles?

I have.

But no one knew.

I think the only person who has known the exact depths of my struggles I have faced since I first became a mother in 2002 is my father but beside him it’s really only me, because I don’t share this information with others. When I am facing a financial hurdle in my own life I rarely blog about it, talk about it or spread the news. Why? Because it’s far too personal and opens a door for pity.

I wouldn’t ever wish pity upon me, because I don’t even have any idea how to feel pity for myself or others. It’s not that I am not compassionate, I am an extremely compassionate person, it’s that I truly believe with a change in attitude directed such as the “I CAN DO THIS” attitude really helps make a change more so than dwelling in self pity or feeling pity towards another person.

With being poor, it’s not always visible and one can be poor one month and then bounce right back on track the next month while others may stay poor for an extremely long period of time. When a person is out of luck financially they don’t need your pity, they don’t need handouts because if they went from being completely self sufficient to needing help – handouts can usually make them feel worse.

What a person needs who is hard on their luck is some human compassion, prayers if that be your way of helping and some positive thinking. Maybe you know someone who has a business or a skill and they are having financial issues, one way to help this person would be to spread the word about their skill and help them gain clients to increase their income.

There are ways to help those down on their financial luck without giving handouts or feeling pity. Let’s try to help another person this year, let’s not pity them, let’s not make them feel any worse, let’s work together as a community to help lift them up beyond this temporary state of financial hadrship!

A Few Things I Would Love for Christmas

I don’t want much but here are some things that stuck out at me this fine year!


You see I don’t want too much but those are the few things that stand out to me at this moment. Any tablet that is larger than 7″ preferably 10″ at minimum would work for me as long as it has good reviews. Any jacket that is stylish will work for me and any SLR camera would be a truly appreciated gift!

Every Movie Night I want Bridesmaids

I remember watching Bridesmaids and fully enjoying this flick. Now every time I get a moment to watch a movie I always think about what I want in the movie; comedy, sex, romance, maybe a little bit of action. I usually want just your average chick flick lately but what Bridesmaids did was put a chick flick on mans radar, because even men enjoyed watching this film.

This movie is hilarious because I can totally picture myself being the maid of honor in this movie and getting so frustrated and getting myself caught up into the whole jealous friend thing. This movie is totally awesome and must be put under the Christmas tree this holiday season!

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Where Do I Fit In?

It’s funny the other day I was thinking about how I don’t really fit in with any particular crowd. As I watch my oldest start having cliques in school where the girls are friends with this group of girls and yet not friends with the other group of girls I wonder, where does anyone fit in really?

I think that every person has something unique about them that sets them apart from a clique and I would like to think that even within each clique the individual person gets bored at times with whatever the other girls may be doing.

For me, I don’t fit in with the upper class generation who spends money insanely and has a lot of materialistic items. I don’t fit in with those who have no money and live on the side of the road without a roof over their heads. I don’t fit in with the middle class who bitch about money and yet have enough to get bye. I am simply me and I like being part of every group, I enjoy chatting with all walks of life and really do enjoy a diversified group to call friends. I doubt I would ever been truly happy hanging with one particular “clique” ever.

I am a bit of a child adult, I always say I will forever be a toys r us kid and it’s so true. I am that goofy immature girl who loves to act a fool with or without alcohol. I am that mature business woman who can sell you anything to make a commission when need be. I am that girl who is the mom figure and can totally show my children great morals and good character. I am a bit of everything and therefore I fit in with ME and that is all that matters.

Watched School Board Meeting

We have a local channel where you can watch the happenings around town but the channel usually has horrible audio quality so I just don’t ever watch it. One morning I was feeling lazy and while lounging in bed decided to flick channels when I happened upon a November school board meeting. Now there is a lot going on in the high school and with the school administrative unit that has me wanting to keep up with the latest and since the audio for this meeting was normal I thought I would watch it.

All I can say after watching this local school board meeting is that the tension within the room of students, school board members, administrators and teachers was so intense that I could feel it through the television. It appears that there is a lot going on behind the scenes of the schools, mainly the high school, that the parents are not aware of. Most recently the principal from the high school was arrested based on reports that he put his hands on a student, he is facing simple assault charges against a student.

My children are not in the high school yet but I will be honest that if the school doesn’t smarten up by then and get some organization going on then I would have no issues pulling my children from the public school environment and placing them in an online high school environment or even home schooling because I won’t put up with my children feeling intimidated at their own school by administrators.

This is really sad to see that the one place children should feel safe and secure is falling apart. As a teen I knew that high school was my safe heaven, I was an above average student and being at school was way better most times than being at home. I had trust in the administrators and had no issues speaking to them if something was going on. I can only hope that by the time my children get into high school that the school has it’s act together because this is so sad to see our future generation falling behind because adults can’t seem to get some organization going on in the upper level of administration!

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