I absolutely love my children dearly and some days I feel like being a mother is the only part of my personal life I have done correct. Don’t get me wrong, parenting is simply something you do the best you know how to do, however, I am pretty confident in being a great mother!
The thing about me is that I am really good at taking the Mom hat off when the children are asleep or I get out of the house without children. It’s like I am a magician, no kids, poof the Mom in me just disappears! I am almost 30 years old but I don’t feel old at all. I feel young and even though some parts of my health are fading and my body may not be able to handle as much as it used to, I know I am young at heart.
Maybe it’s from my father, watching him be a young man even as a grown man. Maybe it’s just the young, beautiful females on my Mom’s side of the family that keep me looking young thus I feel young. I don’t know what it is but I am forever being caught with something silly up my sleeve when those kids are not around.
I think it is very important to any adult to be able to take that parental hat off and let loose to have some fun. Your fun may not be the same as my fun but whatever your “fun” is, please remember to take that parental hat off and enjoy yourself from time to time … it will make you come back as a more refreshed, positive parent!
I swear for the past couple of years I have yet to get that “settled” feeling. I am forever moving and changing and yet living out of boxes for some reason still. I don’t get it, why can’t I find a place for items and why do I never get that settled feeling?
My daughter says the other day that she is excited we will be moving and she will have a slightly larger room because then she won’t live out of boxes anymore, however, in all honesty she doesn’t have to live out of boxes, she chooses not to find places for her items. My daughter is an organizer like me yet for some reason when it comes to her bedroom since we moved back to the house I own she refuses to unpack and find “homes” for her items.
My sons toys take over their bedroom because they have so many that it’s a never ending chore to clean their room. I don’t have the extra funds right now to purchase any of those neat looking bins that children can have to organize their toys but oh how I wish I had two or three for the boys toys. I do have some Amazon gift codes which just may be used for some organizational totes.
Soon I will be moving to the house I grew up in which is very exciting to me. I feel a happiness overcome me. I feel smile coming on. I have been playing and laughing more. This is maybe a sign that soon I will feel settled for the first time in a couple of years.
I left recently for Type-A Parent Conference and although I learned a lot it was sort of like a vacation for me, my first ever vacation. You see I hadn’t ever traveled outside of the New England area before, well we did drive down to Florida one year when I was around age 13 but other than that I haven’t traveled at all outside of New Hampshire, Maine, New York state and Vermont areas.
After two days of being home dealing with the kids I realized I didn’t have quite enough time for a break. It seems after the four days I was gone I completely missed my children but they are such a handful at times that after two days of being home, around them 24/7 I started wishing I could escape for a mini-vacation again.
The idea of a vacation got me thinking about vacation homes in Park City because I haven’t ever been to Utah and it would be cool to have a little vacation condo or townhouse to escape to. My escape from home would be similar to being home because I would have more privacy than staying in a motel or hotel.
I guess I need to start saving my money or get a timeshare so that I can start having a home away from home. I would use it for my own personal, private getaways but also a place to have some family fun with the munchkins from time to time.
I recently went to Type-A Parent Conference in Asheville, NC. I enjoyed my trip so much that it isn’t even going to be a question, other than finances, that I go next year! The only issue I had with getting to Type-A was that I had a choice to drive 18 hours there or fly a couple hours there. I quickly started tweeting about my fear of flying & how I should get to Type-A when @mommycosm tweeted back at me. She is a NH blogger just like me and just like me she was heading to Type-A as a volunteer. Kim is her name and she told me she would be my flying buddy. This all happened via Twitter, I love the power of Twitter (shameless plug, I am @brandyellen so you better follow me).
I started panicking once the tickets for the flight were purchased. We would be in a plane down to NC for about four hours because the route was taking us from Boston, MA airport down to Atlanta, GA then back up to Asheville, NC. Had we gone straight and not out of the way it would only have been a two hour flight much like that of our flight back home from NC.
I felt a little nervous the morning of the flight but I had only gotten about three hours of sleep so my drowsy demeanor probably helped in keeping the anxiety down. I met up with Kim in Boston and she showed me the ropes. We got onto the plane and I sat near the window, a place I didn’t think I would like because I tend to be claustrophobic. I loved looking over the clouds and down to the main land. The view from the airplane window was so amazing.
I didn’t freak out once, not over air pockets, not using the bathroom, nothing. I loved flying so much that now I don’t think I will question driving versus flying ever again. The only time I think flying versus driving will come into play is when we travel with the kids, in that case driving may suit us best.
I am ready for a vacation …. wonder where I will fly next without the munchkins?
I love my daughter to pieces but seriously once she hit age 6 I started thinking “what on Earth happened to my precious little baby girl.” I think someone decided that it would be super funny if once my daughter hit age 6 that they exchanged her personality for one that closely fit mine at her age. Although, I swear I didn’t act the way she does at such a young age.
I recall not having an interest in boys and I also recall loving spending time with my Dad‘s side of the family and my grandparents as well as my aunt and uncle on my Mom‘s side of the family. I do not recall being snobby and rude to my loved ones at age 6 through age almost 9. My attitude seemed to have started around age 13.
Some days I have to ground my daughter by taking things away from her, such as her cell phone which really is only suppose to be used for contact with her Dad, but she is addicted to playing Tetris on it therefore it has become an extra privilege that quickly gets taken away upon bad behavior. My daughter loses her extra weekend movie nights in her room and sometimes she is sent to bed at the same time as her brothers if she hasn’t been listening well or has given a negative attitude all day long.
I am beginning to wonder if age 9 should be the new tween. I predict that tweens start getting hormonal, start liking boys or at least showing some interest in them, they start liking all the iCarly and Victorious type shows and yes now a days they even seem to love Justin Beiber or however you spell his name.
I wasn’t prepared for my daughter to become what I thought a tween was so close to age 9. I really had
thought hoped that I had a few more years before all of this hormonal inbalance attitude would start.
I am now thinking that age 9 should be considered a tween because if it is not defined as that well then, I don’t know what to define my daughter as other than unique, independent, stubborn, carefree and beautiful.
Full Disclosure: I love my daughter dearly, but seriously this new found her is starting to get a little weird for me. Clearly I don’t want my daughter “defined” by anything other than who she is but seriously, I do think age 9 is the new tween for 2011.