Raising Boys; Mooning, Challenges and More

I am a NH mother of three children, two of which are boys who are two years and six days apart. My ex husband and I thought it would be great to have our children close in age so that when the children were grown up we would still have our “young” years to enjoy. Little did we realize that raising two boys so close in age would prove to be a challenge. I work from home, which is a privilege I fully enjoy, however, this means 24 hours a day, 7 days a week I am with these two boys of mine. Their names are AJ and Baby K, they are 3 & 5 years old now which hasn’t proved to make life any easier except I must admit there are more laughs at the things these two attempt to do.

It all started with small challenges to each other, such as who can win a race to brush their teeth in the bathroom, who can win to their bed at bedtime and who can win at a Wii video game, of course AJ always won because he is older, faster and a rather competitive soul. As the boys got older it became evident that Baby K would need to get in touch with his inner competition mind, so now it’s not just who can win to the bathroom, it’s who can win at eating dinner, who can win when Mama calls them to her and who can win when eating melting ice cream at the local ice cream parlor. All of this male testosterone drives me bonkers, I am a girl, I am not into the whole “who can do this first” scene.

I have really tried to understand this competition between the two but all I can come to realize is that “they are boys” and this is in their nature. Baby K seems to think he is a monkey and AJ seems to think he is born to race! Since Baby K is more of a clumsy monkey I must admit I worry when the boys are outside ready to raise their bike down my front steps, granted it’s only three steps but three steps is a long way to fall for a little one. The other day I was outside getting the mail which is a short distance from my front steps, when I turned around my sons were racing head first down the three little steps, I ran so fast to catch them but guess what? They didn’t even fall! Part of me had hoped they had totally failed at this attempt to race down my steps so that they would give up and move onto another venture but since they succeeded this has simpy been part of their daily life and every time I want to close my eyes and cringe.

Another thing life brought upon me raising two boys so close in age is their love for body parts, yes I mean their you know what’s and their bums. I have actually attempted to get a picture of the boys playing together when I click the camera to find AJ had mooned me just at the right moment. Since AJ has started to moon his sister and me, Baby K has started to think this is okay behavior and does the same thing quite often. I am the kind of mom who has a real hard time not laughing at this unacceptable behavior becuase if you think about it, it’s rather funny wondering where these two came up with this idea of mooning people. I don’t moon people, their sister doesn’t moon anyone so where do these boys get these ideas from?

Every day is a challenge, every day brings on more bruises, more cuts and more challenges of what their little bodies can handle which makes this Mama have more near heart attack experiences, tears and worrisome days, but when I sit back and think about the days that have passed raising these two boys I feel happy and loved more than ever because these boys love their Mama and want nothing more than to make their Mama proud. As my sweet AJ heads to kindergarten I feel a piece of my heart aching but I know this Fall I will have one of my double trouble team members making life a little easier and a little less hectic .. I hope.

You Are My Sunshine

I sing You Are My Sunshine to my daughter every night before bed. It has become a tradition for us, ever since she was a little baby. I actually think her father sings it to her, although I don’t know if he still sings it to her, I should ask her about that. She is my sunshine, she is who showed me to grow the heck up a bit and she is who taught me being a mom is the most rewarding job ever, of course now her two brothers teach me the same along with the fact that boys … from a young age develop a love for farting but that’s another story altogether!

Have you heard the You Are My Sunshine song before? Do you or did you have a song you sing/sung to your kids while they were young?

This is not my child in this video, but it was sooo cute I had to embed it!

Whatever Shall I Do

My daughter is going to be nine years old in October, the same month in which I turn 30. My daughter has been going all hormonal on me. I get it, I get all hormonal once a month about one week before my period and it’s a time when I can’t stand being near myself let alone dealing with a child who has no clue what this is all about.

I decided that since my daughter is showing signs of being hormonal I would show her what pads are and take a moment to share with her what the lovely nonfriend of the month brings. The problem? She doesn’t want to hear a thing about it, but who can blame her, I mean this is serious business and gross at the same time for a little girl.

I am one of those parents who knows my children are listening even if they are grossed out or appear to not hear you. My child is listening to me and she is aware of what she has coming ahead. Hopefully she is 12, the same age I was when I had my period, but I have no clue because the hormones are raging and I catch her looking at boys a bit more than she ever did before. Please don’t let her be boy crazy is all I can think to myself.

We have discussed how I feel about boys and dating and all of that because apparently in her grade girls have “boyfriends” , well my daughter won’t be having a boyfriend any day soon. Sure she can do the whole immature in school I have a boyfriend thing where they don’t do a thing with them it’s some odd immature I have a boyfriend no I don’t stage. I had that stage but it was much later in life, or was it? We won’t go there, because I am not sure.

Either way, all I get from my father for advice is “Good luck girl I am rooting for ya”, and after all what can he say? He has two daughters, he has been here before and he probably still deals with the raging hormones from his two daughters often, but Dad deals well. I don’t deal well…. but I will find the secret to dealing with this hormonal stage of my daughter … I WILL.

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Clearing Head To Be an Efficient Parent

It is extremely difficult to parent when your head is full of other things. I have learned that my issue now regarding getting my sons to stay in bed is that my mind is set on “it’s work time for Mama” instead of “get kids to bed now”, this means I get more overwhelmed, I am less apt to follow through and the boys know if they push hard enough and for long enough that Mama is going to have to sit to work so she will give in.

This past week I took time to get work done over the weekend so that I could devote 100% of my mind to getting the boys to stay in their beds. I needed my Mama rights back, I needed the boys to realize that while I love them dearly I mean business when I say it’s bedtime. There is to be no joking around, there is to be no hitting Mama and there is to be nothing more than two boys staying in their own bed falling asleep.

Once I was able to set aside a week of my time to deal with the boys and have no other thought about having to work I was better able to have a clear mind and be more efficient as a parent. It is amazing what a clear head can help you accomplish in parenting!

My sons still have moments where they test my weakness, but I stick to my guns and I have won this battle and am proud to say my sons, for the most part, are actually going to bed when they are suppose to! Next step: working on getting the boys to stay asleep all night long!

I am Moving .. Again

I would say I have moved more in the past couple of years than I have in my whole life, but I would by lying to you. I started living on my own around age 17 but I had run away once for two weeks living with a boyfriend when I was real young and then I moved in and out for a few days at a time during age 16 – 17, which means I have moved around a lot in my lifetime.

Since having my daughter I have stuck pretty close to home, having had only a couple apartments and living with my mother a couple of times. Since having the boys I have gone through a divorce, getting back with the ex husband and  then off again which all created moving situations where I was either moving or he was.

This time I find myself moving to a home where I grew up, to a land where my parents bought as a way to give my sister and I place to call home. Now as my mother moves in with her boyfriend and takes that journey towards a different life I find myself moving into that home and taking care of it while she is pursuing happiness in her own life.

At first I was very sad to think this property would be sold but then my mom let me know it was not going to be sold and if I wanted to be there, I could be. I was so happy because when I first heard that she may sell this property I was in tears, devastated at thinking a place I had hoped would once be mine and or at least a place I could bring my children to see. Now I work on moving, back home, but back home with my children and I feel a sense of happiness sweeping over me that I can’t even explain in words.

Mama I am coming home….

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