You know the old saying “if they get the milk for free, why buy the cow” or something like that, right? Well basically that goes with relationships, sexual in nature. If you are allowing a man to get a piece of you and yet he never has to commit then why would he ever commit? I mean don’t get me wrong, I have read some stories about the lover turned spouse, however, those happy go lucky stories are few and far between.
With movies like Friends with Benefits and No Strings Attached as well as reality television glamorizing sexual only relationships it’s no wonder most young adults and teens think that sex is all you really need in life, don’t worry about the commitment part. I am a firm believer that it comes down to parenting to teach children about relationships and sex without commitment but the media doesn’t help make parenting any easier.
I loved the movies I referenced, however, it gets to a point where some young, beautiful single woman start thinking how awesome that type of relationship would be. You can have the freedom to be classified as “single” yet get laid whenever you want essentially. The problem with this scenario is that emotions get involved, regardless of who you are or how strong of a person you are! Physical attention and emotions almost go hand in hand, unless you have been so severely hurt in a past relationship that you are almost dead to the idea of any commitment.
I think that eventually sex with no strings attached will deteriorate a woman’s self esteem. Yeah you may feel hot n sexy as well as wanted, but in the long run you will eventually feel as if you are not good enough for the commitment part and start wondering what is wrong with you. In all reality there is nothing wrong with you, everyone is worthy of true love and a committed relationship. Stop putting yourself out there in a sexual way to gain the sexual only attention. Make people realize you are wroth more and you want more. This isn’t going to be an easy task but you don’t want to be the home-wrecker or the person who people know they can get a quick piece of ass from anytime they want.
Make yourself held to a higher standard and realize that in doing this you will get more rejections than not but in the long run you will see closing your legs and standing your ground with what you want in life will pay off!