New Year, Working out Again? Let’s See How Long This Last

I do not make resolutions, just so you are very clear here. I am simply thinking it’s a New Year, why not start it out with a bang and get back to getting fit, since I took too much time off from my workouts.  I lost 20lbs in about a month using EA Sports Active on the Wii and so I know I can keep moving forward to keep that weight off {which some has come back with lack of exercise} and be prepared for Summer time.

EA Sports Active Wii

January 2, 2013

When I look at this picture I do not see the same person I see when I look in the mirror, it is that I have been looking at my face getting a little chubbier and my belly fat coming back due to lack in workouts and I cringe. Shown here I see a somewhat decent sized woman, of course I have curves, as you can clearly see below, but I don’t look at these pictures and cringe like I have been when I venture into the bathroom each day.

How to lose 20lbs in one month

January 2, 2013

This is my workout gear, but sometimes I wear a different tank. I lost 20lbs using the EA Sports Active 30 Day Challenge on the Wii in one month. I was so proud of myself. I had stuck with it and in turn my children started to be more active. Now all I get is a daughter who wants to play Just Dance 4 for her workout after over eating at her father’s house during the holidays. Seriously? A workout does not off balance that huge amount of food you shoved in your face kid!

I am so working to make my morning workout part of my morning routine, I feel that if I can get back into doing that then all will be good. Since I did so well losing 20lbs in a month, I thought I would share some tips on how best to lose weight

  • Make your exercise routine part of your daily routine, usually the morning routine.
  • Get the family involved, it’s always easier to stick to a workout routine when others are doing it with you.
  • Meals – use smaller plates at dinner time so you can not over eat, such as those smaller plates that maybe you let the kids use for meals instead of the full size dinner plates.
  • Snacks – choose healthier but filling options such as protein bars or apples, both are great choices and help you to feel full in between meals in a healthier way.
  • Park further away from the entrances at stores, my kids hate that I do this, but it really does help you get that little bit of extra exercise in your day even with your daily workout routine.
  • Never give up – if you missed one workout day, that’s fine, life happens. Just pick up the next day and get back into the routine again, do not allow yourself to feel down thus losing more workout days.

I created the above tips based on what worked for me to lose 20lbs in one month. I personally feel that if I can do it while working from home and juggling three kids & their activities then you can do it too!

And then I got a Case of the Giggles

I have not had the case of the giggles since high school, well probably did have some giggles when my friend Sheila came to visit for we did act a bit goofy, well a lot goofy. In a general, overall world, I normally do not get the giggles but the other night I could not stop laughing for the life of me. It’s as if I was consumed by the tickle monster and nothing would or could make me stop giggling.

Sorry you are groundedI blame it on being over tired because my youngest son has not been sleeping through the night for me, unless he is in my bed. When my son is in my bed, I don’t sleep through the night, it’s a case of lose/win. What I really need to start doing is just lead him back downstairs to his bed so he doesn’t have a chance to book it for my bedroom after using the bathroom, but rarely do I think to do that in the middle of the night when I am half asleep, so it’s my bed where he ends up.

I do think that my case of the giggles may have been a bit more than just being over tired …. I have this nervous reaction with people, usually I get shy and don’t talk much. As of late, I have been more outspoken and act a fool around people when I am nervous. I wish I could revert back to my shy self but it’s near impossible for me to do most times. There are some situations where I still get shy, but overall I find that I am too outspoken and say dumb shit when I am nervous these days.

A giggle fest and randomness spouted out of my mouth … apparently that is the new me .. totally embarrassing, maybe I should take advice from my daughter and not worry what others think then I wouldn’t be as embarrassed!

Plenty of Fish vs In my Experience

When I first decided that I would put myself out there on a dating site, I went with the free one, I have used this website in past years without much success, but figure maybe I will give it a shot this time. One thing I have learned from my long-term single friends was that you should not waste your time engaging in a conversation with someone who isn’t even the right fit for you. Basically, why spend time getting to know someone, for example, that wants to have children some day if you do not want to ever have children {or more children}. That is a waste of their time and yours.

Since is free, I figured what the heck. Let’s give this a try and see what I see. So far I have only seen a bunch of people who 1) don’t match what I would even think about settling down with 2) are locals who I’ve known a long time & enjoy just friendship with them & 3) POF seems to attract people who are simply looking for a piece of ass.  My replies to this are; I do not need the internet dating site POF to find sex, I can find that if I really wanted it randomly anywhere outside my home.  Random conversations that seemed somewhat interesting on POF turned into dead air when we ran out of interesting topics. Then other conversations ended before they even began because they were completely inappropriate for me. was my other choice for a dating site, I have heard great things about this site and I would only assume since you have to actually pay to do much more than wink at the person on the site, maybe – just maybe – there is someone out there seeking a more serious “get to know each other” situation. I decided to pay for a one month time period only on  This is about $30, more money than I should spend, but hey I rarely spend money on myself and figured I deserved to give myself one month of seriously seeking new people.

Since is a paid site it seems I am watching as more suitable people contact me, do not get me wrong there are still those dead air conversations, those people simply seeking a piece of ass, but more importantly there are more of those who are seeking a real long term commitment to the right person. That is the key phrase “right person”, seems to have a wide range of people who are seriously wanting that “perfect for them partner in life” and that my friends is what I would ultimately enjoy having. may not have a huge range of men that I drool over or are highly interested in, but they do have a couple that seemed interesting.

Basically in a nutshell, if someone were to ask me if I recommend a free dating site over a paid dating site; I would honestly have to tell them to try to invest time and at least one month payment into the paid dating site. I would also recommend simply setting up a free profile first on the paid dating site, that way they can surf and look around without having wasted money if no one on that site seems interesting at all.

**the dating experiences on the websites noted are based on my own experiences, obviously not everyone will have the same experiences I am having or have had.

A New Year and Still Me

I wanted to write something like “a New Year, A New Me” but I am not new, I am still the same old chick. I have had tons of time with the lack of sleep in this household to really think about where I am at in life and business so that I can make some changes in both areas that I am actually 100% okay with doing. I feel more relaxed and focused, maybe it’s the lack of sleep giving me no choice but to think about my to do list and such, who knows.

I am excited that we are now in the year 2013, so many changes this year for me and while some are super scary, all feel so wonderful! I am excited to be moving forward in a positive direction both as a person and as a family and entrepreneur.

Now if winter will be over already I would be even more happy.

Let’s Learn From 2012 and Make 2013 The Best

In the year 2013 all I wish is to make sure that I remember the mistakes made for lessons that needed to be learned from and that in 2013 I make sure to keep moving forward after having learned from those mistakes.


I wish good health upon everyone. I wish love. I wish dreams to become reality and last but not least I wish you all a Happy New Year!

Do you make a resolution? I do not but curious how many do.

The Big No-No’s in Online Dating

I tend to be pretty laid back, I can get along with anyone, I can flirt with anyone, and I can seriously go out and have a blast with just about anyone.  There are few things that bother me, or so I thought, in the opposite sex, but now that I’ve put myself out there as being single and am on a couple dating sites; I have found some shit that bugs me. I just have to share some of my new found “no no’s” to online dating …

Online Dating NO NOs

If You have Time to Message Me and Get Angry that I didn’t reply within  10 minuteswell then you clearly have more time on your hands and clearly have not a life of your own.

From previous mistakes with relationships, I have learned that if another person has enough time on their hands to get angry about lack in a quick reply, then they have no life of their own. If this person has no life of their own what is it that they can offer me? Not much. I do not need someone who has no passion in life nor none of their own things to keep them busy – let’s say maybe a job? So if someone gets mad that I am not messaging them quick enough, and then proceeds to show me anger in messages over my lack in quick reply – well then they are not going to hear from me. Anger over lack in quick reply translates to anger in other areas in life.

If you Call me a Whore, Tell me to Bend over, or any other rude message as a first or any future contact- well then you clearly do not know how to treat a woman

I can not make this crap up, calling me a whore for having a full body pic, seriously – it’s a fully clothed, no cleavage showing full body pic. That makes me a whore? I was floored at that random message. Clearly someone who has to tell a woman negative things, wishes to get a rise out of a woman for their own attention needs. I won’t give that attention back.  These days I refuse to believe that men or woman must setup a dating site to get laid, if that is the case then you surely are not the one for me.

Having No Profile Picture – not being superficial but seeing ones face is best when dealing with online dating, even if it’s not really your own face

I totally get that one can have a fake photo online, it’s easily done, but at least have some picture on your profile. I do not reply to non-picture profiles and certainly am not going to reply and give you my email address to email me a picture. If you can’t put your face on a dating profile, then there is clearly something going on that I want no part of.

No MOre Kids

Height, Having Kids, Wanting Kids – people please pay attention to the person who you are about to write to.

For me, the man has to be taller than me. I am not one who wishes to be taller than my man. I would feel like I was towering over him and I like a manly man, a tall manly man.  I have listed a height range on all profiles and yet people below that height always message.

I clearly do not want to have any more kids but if I were to meet someone who had kids of their own, well that is perfect. I would gladly accept and love a partners child(ren). I just do not want to have anymore of my own. Which again, is clearly stated, but for some reason men do not glance to see that and those who want more kids or want kids at all still message me. We clearly are not a fit there, so why waste my time and yours?

Stresses in Online Dating

Shake My Head and Grit My Teeth

For me, it’s so hard not to reply to some of the rude, dumb messages I get on these dating sites, and I am even talking about a paid dating site, people just baffle me. Why pay for a dating site if you are mainly seeking to get into a woman’s pants? Geesh people, there are free sites for that or maybe the bar downtown? I don’t know, couldn’t imagine paying for a site to meet woman just for sex, but to each their own I suppose.

I really want to reply to some of the negative messages I get, after all I am a writer and in me I seek to have this long drawn out response calling these men out and if I were doing the same thing, “hey baby I like what I see, want to get together and bang?” I would expect someone to tell me how it is too. The issue is then you get into this big go around and each of you wants the last word, wasting the time of both of you. So I simply delete the message or block the person depending upon how awful the message was.

This is certainly a journey but so far I have learned through past mistakes a couple of things;

  1. Do not settle for anything less than what you need, want and deserve.
  2. Do not bring a love interest around your kids too soon, for they may get attached and you do not which can lead to heart break.

Wish me luck .. I feel like a fish in water with an alligator about to bite off my head or something like that…at least I am having a good sense of humor about it.

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