Merry Christmas From Me to You

Ho Ho Ho! Merry Christmas…. I received a nice pair of boots from the Mom…

Boots for MVL Mom

And the daughter got me some coffee and slippers …. just what I needed/wanted…

Dunkin Donuts Coffee

Now my kids are all gone off to their Dads for the day and night to enjoy special time with their other half parent. I, however, am done with Christmas day and I think I hear my bed calling my name.

Merry Christmas to all and to all a Good Day!

I Decided to Put up Dating Profile

I honesty was not going to put up any dating profiles for many reasons; I am extremely busy, I have tried the dating scene with a total fail and well I am just not 100% sure how to date in the real world. I have always fallen hard and fast for one person, never been good at dating people, getting to know them, basically what I think of as courting. I do not want to latch on to one person just yet, I love the idea of having someone to go out to dinner, movies, events on the weekends my kids are gone but the idea of latching on to a full time commitment, well honestly, I am not so sure I want that.

I obviously have not found the right for me person and I am finally at a point in my life where I am perfectly okay with being home alone. Sleeping in a silent house with no kids and no other adult around works just fine for me. I do not feel that need of having to have someone around, do you know that in my years of having had a boyfriend, I have never felt that okay with living without a partner? I am going to enjoy this feeling and take full advantage of it, but since I do not get out of the house very often, I decided the best way to try to meet new people would be to put up a dating profile.

I started with Plenty of Fish and OH MY GOSH, you can not pay me enough to deal with most of the men on that site. The typical “where are you from” question gets quickly answered with “ummm did you even read my profile”. I have a height limit of being taller than me, and it’s usually a 5’9″ or 5’10″  height limit at minimum for a man I wish to get to know. I get men who are below that height still contacting me, I am just like really? I do not even reply to these messed up messages because I do not have the time for idiots. No offense men, but some of you really need to read because asking such silly questions or contacting a woman who is clearly not interested in some of what you have on your profile makes you look like 1) you are not taking dating seriously and just want to get laid or 2) you are just dumb.

I now know what my best friend in Texas went through when being on dating sites. This is nuts. So I have my profile out there on a couple of dating sites, just to see what I see or who sees me, maybe I will make some new great friends. I am not actively looking for a full time partner, I am simply randomly looking and seeking friendship. If that right person came along obviously I would want them to scoop me right up but for now, I am really, really enjoying being alone. Even if I have lonely moments, this is a great new feeling and I refuse to give up on my new found independent nature for just anyone.

More dating site stories to come … seriously …. you can not pay me enough to deal with some of these messages. Hopefully you find humor in them and enjoy traveling along as I share some of my online dating experiences. One rule I have is not to blog about relationships, so I may not divulge into that part if I were to find someone, but I will have fun venting about these dating site messages I get for now.

Sometimes I Simply Forget Who I Have Become

Lately I have been in this funk, I keep saying my hormones are off. I cry at the drop of a hat and it’s difficult to find that happy thoughts place I always have been so good at finding. Then I had this lovely conversation with a Twitter friend, she reminded me what I have worked so hard to be all of these years, she reminded me that it’s simply a matter of taking back control of me.

You see, I do believe and have seen first hand, that thoughts can control you. Let’s say you think you have this illness, or maybe you think you are pregnant, if you keep thinking that way then your body will literally start to act as if you are sick or pregnant or whatever it is that you seem to think in your mind is going on.  That is the exact reason why I have been stuck in this hormonal rut, sure maybe something is going on with my body and I certainly will need to get to to a doctor, but I have fought off Generalized Anxiety Disorder sided with a cup of paranoia and horrible temper before, I can fight off the emotional roller coast my mind is taking me on for sure! No problem.

I can do this

I can do this, I can find me again and I can get back on track but in order to do so I have to do a bit of life clean up, this means removing once again any toxic friendships I have that help bring me down rather than up. I will succeed because I succeed at everything I put my mind to. I also need to start working out again, that really helps to boost the happy hormones!

 

This is How the Girls of the House Roll

My middle child is playing basketball for the first time this year and it’s funny that my oldest (and only) daughter always seem to “primp” before we head out to the once-a-week practices.

Shown above is my daughter in my too big for her sandals, that are high in the heel and worn with socks this past week. She felt she was styling and looking good, I have to agree, she looks just fine.

Shown above is me, with my head cut off, in my boot cut Levi jeans, a Columbia fleece and my awesome boots.

Yes, we are girls and we act like girls .. sometimes.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

It is very true that actions can speak way louder than words. For instance, you can tell your kids you are appreciative of things they have accomplished but it means way more to them to get a big gigantic hug or have you do something special as a way to say congrats. Relationships with men or woman are no different, for me, I would much rather a person show me he loves me, cares for me, likes me than say it 100 times. Maybe it’s because I have heard how people “feel” far longer than I have seen it shown to me.

The issue with realizing that actions do speak volumes compared to three little words is that I am a person who has been told more than shown. So for example, if someone were to me show me that they care deeply for me, that I am truly important to them – it would make me feel great. And after all that is something I noted missing many years ago, but since I am a person who has been told how people feel without actions backing that up for so long, ever since I started dated as a teen, it would be a hard adjustment period for me I do believe.

The constant reminder to self would be needed that the actions of that person mean more than their words. That the fact that they take time to show me how they care means so much more. Love, life and relationships are such a hard part of this world and maybe that is why I spend most of my days making sure I don’t fall head over heels into some odd living situation again or some relationship just to be in one. I want real deal, the real feelings, a person who will do anything for me and I for them, because that is what being with someone is all about.

I want to know that he feels the same as I do, constantly waiting to hear from me, hoping their day is going well. I need someone who has their own life and ability to bring something more to my life; such as their own hobbies, parenting style or what not. It’s great when you meet that person for you, the one who can show you and tell you how they feel. That person who meshes well with all you have on your plate in life. That my friends, is what the dating world is all about. Do not settle. I settled before, and I refuse to ever, ever do that again.

Everyone in the dating world needs to realize that it’s best to be alone than to settle for someone who isn’t the right fit for you and/or your family unit.

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