When I go into a specific store in my town, I note that most cashiers are off to the other side of the store, leaving the front of the store near empty of any workers. The other thing I notice is the poor customer service form most of the employees there. Granted, there are a few who are really nice if you catch them on the right day and then there is the person who appears to be the manager of the store. The manager or so I am going to assume the manager of this store is iffy, sometimes he looks non approachable and grumpy then other days he looks like someone you can joke around with.
I ventured into this store the other day for some items and upon checkout I noted that I get this “look” every single time I say “debit” when the total comes up. Some stores need you to say what payment type you are using so that they can hit a button on their cashier screen, so I just always assume this store is the same way. I always say debit to them and then proceed to slide my card and pay for the items I purchase.
This particular day I decided to ask the manager looking dude, “Do I need to tell you when I am using debit or not” and he looked confused, so I explained that some stores need to know what payment method you are using. He said “no you don’t. The only payment method that needs to be mentioned is EBT (food stamp/cash assistance card) when the person is buying both food and non-food items”. My reply was “oh ok, well I don’t have EBT so that won’t ever affect me to have to state I’m using a particular card”. The manager looking dude then replied in such a way that made my face turn red, me make a giggle of “wow I can’t believe he just said that” and also understand where he is coming from … he said
oh ok so you work for a living then?!
I seriously was jaw dropped. You see, I have written on my other blog Happily Blended a lot about how I know state welfare is there for a reason, it helps people who need to get back on their feet. I have used food stamps before, many different times in my life I was in a position where I had to use the system for what it’s there for. I never had any plans of using it as a tool to be lazy nor a tool to simply not be an adult and work for my money. The system is there to use not abuse. That is the sad thing about the days today, so many are abusing the system instead of taking on jobs.
There are jobs out there, it’s just a matter of sucking it up and taking a job that surely may not pay the bills completely and sure maybe you still have to be on assistance for a bit at some level, but try. That is all everyone should do is try to show effort to feed their kids by working hard and pay the bills by working hard. For me, I couldn’t live off of state aid, for one you can only be on cash assistance for 5 years of your life in New Hampshire. I had to use about 1 year of that when I was first thrown into single motherhood with my first born. Throughout her life I had to use cash assistance for that one year total, but within six months of that 1 year I did have an administrative assistant office job. Eventually I worked within six months to be off assistance. I have a mindset that I wouldn’t feel successful and secure unless I was making my own money.
I was raised to be independent, determined, stubborn and a move forward sort of person. While I can totally find what that manager type dude said to me, he isn’t really in a position where he should say such things aloud at work. What if the person behind me was someone like I was back in the day, a person who had to use assistance to get back on their feet and in turn were molded into the pre-judgement that they are just losers that can’t work for their own self?! To me, that’s sad.
I may no longer be the person who had to use state assistance but I was that person who used the system for what it was for and look at me now, I am making it being self employed! I think that people need to remember that no one can judge another person unless they are walking in that person’s shoes. No person can fully relate to another person, never. Each of us walks a different path in life. I wish judgement would cease a bit. We all do the best we can and for those who truly are just being lazy and doing the minimum possible to live, well those people need to be stepping up and get their head out of the butts. For the rest of us who try our best and keep moving forward working harder, don’t mold us (rather them) into the shadow that has been cast upon those who are on state aide.