In my opinion, a parent has unconditional love for their children because, well, they are born to them and we are somewhat of the animal species so our instincts shows u to protect, nurture and love them no matter what. With relationships, why would one not feel the same with the person they marry? I do. I feel that if I took the time to marry someone then I better think long and hard before getting a divorce. After a conversation the other night, I finally found another person who feels the exact same about marriage; that you hang onto that marriage, two people that are married should work hard to try to fix whatever may be broken within their marriage, not just walk out.
While this is a great theory, truth will have that your children will always be unconditionally loved but to place that exact same love into a husband or wife seems difficult for many. It seems human nature tells us to note other peoples flaws and experience tells our heart to back off when that right for you person is part of your life. We are tricky humans, but I honestly believe that you have to unconditionally love your children. I think with your husband or wife that there is some level of conditional love, but overall it should be held just as high as the love for your children.
Marriage is a sacred vow between two people and that is not something I will ever, ever go into lightly, if I ever marry again. For now, my children are my world and I can see how one could unconditionally love their children but maybe not have that same level of love for their spouse. It makes sense to me, but it shouldn’t be that way!
I call the boyfriend, my partner, and when I refer to him as my boyfriend he asks “hey when did I downgrade from partner to boyfriend?” I giggle because honestly it was just a word and I didn’t think too much of it until he made this point. A partner is a word that you hold as a higher standard, I can only assume and a boyfriend or girlfriend is not as strong of a word. Other words can be used are “my love” “my life” “my world” but partner makes it sound as if you and that special person are a team and that truly is what we are.
I am shocked at times about how well we work together. Don’t get me wrong with our high stress count these days I have already let him know he may hate me but just hang onto why he likes me at this point. There is a lot on my shoulders, as are with his, but we are getting through it and coming out shining. After all, that is the only way I roll.
To back track a bit, the other day my lovely man came into a house with me attempting to keep my six year old in a time out, my daughter telling me “why can’t you make that kid shut up, I have a headache” and my youngest running all around being his normal hyper self. Most men would have walked back out that door, I honestly am not a man and would have run for the hills. He never runs. Not my partner, he stands by me and helps in any way he can. Granted, at this point, it’s me dealing with my children especially in a time out situation or what not, but he does help by not having any issues with doing the dishes for me when he only has about half hour or so to get ready for his next appointment after working all day.
My partner in life, he is an amazing man and I am not only happy to have him but I feel truly blessed to have met him on Match.com because I honestly never thought online dating sites would get me further than they had in the past. Who would have known that nearly six months ago when I walked away from the idea of dating sites that I would find “him” before I cancelled my membership.
This is technically my kid free weekend but my boyfriend has his 12 & 13 year old children three weekends a month, meaning this is the weekend I don’t have kids but the boyfriend does. While I may get away and have some alone time, I do enjoy spending time with the three of them alone as well.
So the weekend is coming and I hope that I don’t add to my already sun burned top. That’s what I get for saying “I never burn”. Remember not to utter such a word as “never” because it will happen more times than not.
Thus my sun burn I am sporting from last weekend. I doubt I will add to it as the weather looks like it’s going to be cloudy and rainy. BUT here’s hoping the weather man is completely wrong!
This past weekend my daughter was upset that I wouldn’t let her go hibernate in my office on my laptop. It wasn’t happening. The day was beautiful and there was no reason for her to be on the laptop.
So the daughter walked around moaning about how there was nothing to do and so forth when finally, a light bulb went off in her head I presume, and she asked if she could search for something on my laptop.
I replied that she could use it for five minutes to search something but that was it. So when I walked into the office to check for confirmation that she was indeed doing only what I gave her permission for this is what I saw…
My daughter used Google to tell her “easy and fun ways to cool down on a hot summer day” because after all, why use your imagination? She cracks me up.
Is this what Tween years are really like in our technology based world?!
My four year old son is often found dancing to his own beat, ever since this kid was a baby he couldn’t help but break out in dance when he heard music. Today, he is that same kid so it didn’t surprise me when the sprinkler was making a beat that sounded similar to music that he would stand around dancing over the sprinkler….
This is a child who lives life to the fullest. He is full of energy, smiles and happiness. This is truly a child who makes our household a bit more comical and I love his comic relief. I love that he dances to his own beat and hopefully he will continue to dance to his own beat all of his life.