I had this list of what I wanted in a boyfriend aka partner in life, but the list wasn’t outside of my mind written up on a piece of paper. I wasn’t going out dating, getting to know people with some list written down that they had to either pass or fail. I did, however, have this mindset of what will work with my personality and mindset versus what would not. While I am easy going and can be friends with virtually any person type, that one person to be my partner for life would have to exhibit specific qualities within their own self, be at a similar place in their life and well, be extremely family orientated. Those are all things that were important to me going into the dating scene back six months or so ago.  Then, it hit me, I met this man who I have fallen for hardcore and everything seems to fit into place. It’s funny because I was texting with one of my girlfriends citing that there are some things that sort of are getting under my skin with this boyfriend. I went on to say that I wasn’t going to text her the “list” of things because if I started listing out the little things she would in turn tell me that those are features in a man I had complained of never having. I swear, sometimes, just sometimes, people always want what they don’t have even if what they have is perfect for them. Don’t get me wrong, I am not leaving my boyfriend. I am simply sharing some things that were important for me going into the dating scene and that I actually have found all of them within this one person which is what makes the difference between finding a new friend and finding a real love life partner.

Things I wanted in a Boyfriend/Partner for Life

• Ability to dream outrageously with me yet at the same time be realistic enough to keep me grounded when I am flying off over the moon in a hyper mode or dreaming a tad bit beyond reality. – I have found that within this special man.
• Be responsible, making sure bills get paid before any other extra item(s) are purchased and make sure that nothing gets shut off due to lack of payment. – I have found that within this special man.
• Be a great father, one that his kids can feel comfortable and open coming to for discussion on any topic. - I have that with this special man.
• Ability to let go when and if I say let go in parenting to just let the kids have fun but meanwhile trust that I would never let anything happen to their kids on purpose. – I have that with this special man.
• Show love in a physical manner, no I don’t mean sexually, I mean someone who can snuggle up to cuddle when falling asleep at night, someone who gives hugs and kisses without question. Someone who is affectionate overall and shows love in affectionate ways. - I have that with this special man.
• Be at a place where they are not in a hurry to rush anything but if the feelings fit then they are not scared to move forward based on what their heart is telling them. – I have that with this special man.
• Ability to balance each other and compliment each other with their own personality versus mine. Meaning we will be like a yin/yang of each other. – I have that with this special man.

I have grown enough in my life to know exactly what I need and I have grown enough in my life to know I will not settle for anything less than what I need, want and desire. I also will not settle for anything less than what my kids also deserve. So far so good.

Cheers to a new chapter in all of our lives!