I have noticed, as of late, that many people are begging for money, putting their financial dire straights out there in the public eye and trying to make people feel bad for them being broke. Let me tell you all this; it isn’t that difficult to research online and find work to do. It isn’t all that difficult to step outside and work at a fast food chain to simply make the bills. It’s called “sucking up your pride”. Believe me, I am an extremely prideful person but because I never had things handed to me, I feel, I have a stronger sense of pride and more strength to move forward. No matter how broke I get, no matter what chances of losing a home, or getting electric shut off or the inability to buy as much food as I would like to, I always chug along forward. I don’t broadcast the financial strain I may or may not be in from time to time and I certainly do not beg anyone for money.
For one; I am a professional. Many people who are doing the same or similar line of work as I do, actually find it okay to beg for their business. Citing reasons like “oh my God, I have to feed my child” or “Oh my gosh the bills are due and you said you would work with me and now I am not going to be able to put food on the table for my kid”. I don’t see out of home workers going into their bosses begging for a raise because they feel they are better than everyone else in that company and deserve special attention to be able to “feed their kids”. We don’t do that, it’s not professional and makes you look bad to these clients.
I know I should not let other people being hypocrits bother me, but it does. I am so sick of looking at my social media feeds and watching as people who have other people to pay for their crap beg and plead and cry for money. Are you freaking kidding me? I have no help. I have just me. I now have a fiance, so yeah we have combined income, but we just have each other. If we ask someone for money, we have to pay it back and we are given a super hard time if we even let down our pride and ask to borrow money. It’s known that we are not the type of people to beg for money or even ask for it, so if we are asking to borrow money then it’s serious business.
Sure, this is who we are. I shouldn’t be upset for others being the way they are, but it pisses me off.
I’m so sick of watching people beg for money online. I see this happening with people all over the United States and I’m shaking my head thinking “Is this the American dream?” Have we really become so weak minded that we allow the Government and other people to pay for our necessities? Or worse, pay for things we could live without??
I am all for the neighbor helping neighbor mentality but when you give a pity party whether it be unprofessionally private to a business owner to get money or publicly for all to see; it’s wrong. Trying to get pity means you sadly are a weak person and maybe should seek help to get strong again. WE all have our weak moments, we all have our times of struggle. It’s normal. Honestly, I feel times of challenges and struggles are what keeps me going. I feel stronger and have more pride knowing that I earned every single penny of my money to pay to support my kids and I didn’t allow my good morals to suffer in the process.
So the next time you are putting others down for sharing a sob story and yet you do the same? Maybe think twice. It’s hurtful. You see, I don’t do the sob stories. I have moments of hormonal issues and I may privately complain or confide in a friend, that’s okay. That’s what private friends are for. It’s not okay to beg for PITY — that is what gets UNDER MY SKIN. Not that someone is having an off day, week or month, not that someone is struggling and sharing their down day with the world to allow their friends to pick them back up – I am sick of the pity party with oh woe is me mentality.
Get a life. Get help. Grow up. Be Strong …. live the American dream – we are STRONG!