I am Nervous for My Children

As I watch over the world today, sitting here watching the Today show hearing about a man who complained in a tweet and almost got kicked off a Southwest Flight for complaining in a tweet. Then there are other news stories where someone tweeting or posted on FB something that “made someone uncomfortable” and had backlash for it or were disciplined in some way. What is our world coming to? We can no longer speak our complaints publicly aloud for all to read or hear? Why is it that so many want to make sure that everyone is comfortable?

Let’s face it people, we are not meant to feel comfortable with all situations and all scenarios. People are not always going to think you are nice. People are not always going to like you. While this may upset you or make you feel uncomfortable, who cares. I face these feelings on a regular, while I usually attract really sweet people, there are occasions where I am confronted with negative, mean people and that’s okay. I don’t whine and cry or tell on them because I am uncomfortable, if I am uncomfortable I need to get over it.

There is a fine line between a scary situation where you feel threatened for a valid reason and you feel uncomfortable but need to simply get over it. I do not feel that we should be taught to shut up and not speak our feelings and opinions. We are allowed to have those feelings and opinions, we own them. Get over it!

Why am I nervous for my children?

I am raising my children in a semi old fashion way as far as thinking patterns go and speaking up for their own selves. I have and still am raising my children to think for their own self. I want my children to develop their own opinions and feelings based on who they are as individuals. Sure, they are children, but you know what?! They are also human beings that need to learn how to be well rounded, respectful, healthy opinionated adults while under my supervision so as to allow me to lead them properly.

I teach my children to speak up for how they feel, I also teach them that while they may feel one way about something that not everything they dislike is going to change. Allowing my children to have a voice, teaching them to speak up and feel for their own self really creates this self confident, independent personality that I feel is important to have in society as an adult. I watch so many adults struggle with these type of things; self confidence, independent thinking and the ability to speak up for their own self. I do not wish to raise children that lack those skills and in all honesty, I have three well spoken children who can eventually tell me what is on their mind.

Sure, sometimes they don’t speak it properly, I am famous for telling them to “please watch your tone and body language”, because that is all part of me teaching them how to express themselves properly. Many read body language before they hear what you are saying, so I am working on the whole package to ensure my children will be adults who speak up and do not ever allow themselves to be treated poorly. Ever.

The Future Looks Scary

I normally don’t catch the news, it’s odd that I happened to be able to watch it today, but every chance I do have to watch the news, I just get sad. I get upset. I get frustrated. We are not living in the same society I grew up in, and it’s not a better society than I grew up in either. I watch adults turn into sheep, we tend to complain and whine but don’t have the actions behind our complaints to make change. I watch as our society starts to turn into this socialist community almost; where our rights are being slowly stripped away and our ability to speak our opinions aloud are being washed away.

I wonder how my children will be viewed when they become adults. Will my children keep these skills I taught them for so many years? Will my children be suppressed to not be these independent, self confident people when they become adults? I sure as heck hope not. I can only hope that we see a positive direction soon, because I cannot handle watching rights being stripped away day after day while we, the current adults in society, allow that to happen.

We the people need to continue to raise our children to be independent thinkers, self confident people and we the people can only do that through being the proper parental example. Fight back. Speak up. Feel something and let that feeling guide you into making change happen!

 

Has Spring Actually Sprung?

My backyard is starting to have some brown grass show through the snow that was dumped upon us over this long Winter season. Slowly but surely I am realizing that maybe, just maybe we do have a backyard. I am really loving the warmer days, mind you today has a bit of a chill undertone to it, but I will take it. It’s still the 40′s which is way better than the many days of below zero we had to endure this past Winter in New Hampshire.

With Spring time here, or coming slowly anyways, many are getting that itch to start cleaning and to find some household item deals. Maybe you are on the look out for some fun things to do outside after Winter had you all cooped up. If you subscribe to Living Social by clicking the link below, you will get email alerts with deals and specials for your Spring and Summer season. I recently saw a fabulous hotel deal for Maine, but couldn’t take advantage of it just yet. I have to wait til we get a little bit closer to June.  So click on over to Living Social and sign up to get email alerts for fabulous deals, great way to boost the spirits as the weather climbs to meet our warm weather temperature preference.

As a first time home buyer, my fiance is thinking about ways to save on electricity. This is why I feel like sharing the following information with you all, because I firmly believe saving on our electric bill can be a somewhat easy task to complete. Save up to 70% in some cases with solar power, simply click the banner below to visit HomeSolar 101 and see how solar power may be able to save you some cash.

Saving money and getting deals for the Spring season are so vitally important. I know I have a huge pile of yard sale items that is awaiting for our snow to melt and a nice warm weekend to unveil for our locals to stop by and name their price. I cannot believe how quickly children outgrow toys, clothing and accessories. Surely a yard sale will give us some extra money too, which is always fun to have on hand!

What are some things you start doing once Spring has Sprung?

Planning a Spring/Summer 2015 Wedding

It’s official, I am engaged and with that comes the planning a wedding stage. Right now, all I long for is to celebrate my engagement. We want to have time to simply be happy and enjoy this wonderful time in our life, but other life responsibilities are keeping us rather busy. Originally we wanted to have a Spring/Summer 2014 Wedding but since we really want to ensure our special day is a reflection of things we didn’t have our first time around as well as a way to showcase who we are as individuals and a couple; the time is needed to ensure we have time to free plan. We don’t want to get stuck into this time crunch, after all, if we love each other we can wait.

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Both of us have been married once then divorced once, this time around we have all of the time in the world. We aren’t having any children together biologically, we have my three and his two that will join as one blended family in 2015 and we want it to be a special day!

For starters, we have no clue what the “wedding party” at a normal wedding entails; sure we know flower girl, best man, maid of honor and bridesmaids, etc but is that all? I guess we have to do some research. Hoping for time this weekend to get my tax prep done and then sit together viewing various wedding planning ideas so we can get a feel for the style of wedding we long for.

Of course we have a small budget, at the moment there is no “number” to it other than cheap as cheap can be while still keeping it special. I’m super excited but still think it’s sinking in, like I said, we have so many other external things going on to deal with that the engagement has been really something that we are happy about but haven’t had a chance to really breath and take in the reality of it!

Cheers to a wonderful 2014 with planning of  the joining of our families in 2015 as two people who deeply love each other unite under wedlock.

Twitter, Facebook and Gmail Passwords are at Risk

Apparently there was this big hack and many passwords for Gmail, Twitter and Facebook have been leaked. This means on my fine Friday evening, I am not sitting here getting my reviews for Happily Blended written up, no I am sitting here telling you all so that you can change your passwords!

I don’t care if you have no “sign” of someone else knowing your login credentials but read this post and tell me you don’t feel as if changing passwords is worth it?

I just did it and you can too. It was a pain in the arse too, changing online then on my iPhone because you know, they can’t make this easy in our technologically driven world. It’s no more to just do something on the web over the laptop but you also have to ensure all of your other devices have been updated to new login credentials.

So get on it .. go make sure that your Facebook, Gmail and Twitter accounts are protected and safe! Change your passwords.

Oh .. and afterwards – go enjoy your weekend.

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Meet Kitty – The New Cat of the House (and only cat of the house)

I love all animals. I have not yet had much luck with cats since my baby died years back. He was an orange tiger and I usually called him Tiger with the occasional Tigger. He was orange and white striped and weighed in about 17lbs before he passed away. He was a huge kitty and he had personality beyond belief. This cat was so loyal to me, he was a gift from an ex boyfriend back when I was about 17 years old. The ex boyfriend brought this kitty home to our apartment and told him to hide, the kitty obeyed. That kitten won my heart and kept it until about six or seven years ago when he passed away due to unknown causes. I believe it was something the vet had given him for a shot, because he became quite ill after that but I will never know. All I do know is that cat was the love of my life, as far as cats go, and since then? There has been but maybe two kitties who have won my heart slightly close to that level.

Kitty

Meet Kitty. He is a three year old double pawed beautiful cat who we recently took into our home. He is not fixed but thankfully he doesn’t spray around the house, we will look into getting him fixed at some point. The previous owners told us he was an indoor cat, that his name he came with was Smokey but he never answered to it so they started calling him Kitty. Obviously he comes to “here kitty kitty” but we found out he does come to Smokey or Kitty or any name you say, as long as he wants to. This kitty is extremely independent and another thing is … he clearly was not an indoor cat.

Double Pawed Kitty

This kitty wants out. While I am sitting at my laptop working he is climbing the back of my office chair and hanging on the edge to get up on my printer and modem to get into a window sill. At night he gets himself up into any window he can find. During the day or even at night, he tries to fly out the door to get on his outdoor adventures. I will not have an indoor and outdoor cat or a permanent outdoor cat either, I am highly allergic to fleas. While this kitty drives me batty all day and night wanting to get outside, I wonder if getting him fixed may help curb his wish for such outdoor adventures?

Kitty is also not a huge dog cat. While he tolerates the pug, he isn’t too happy to share his home with a dog. They are slowly warming up to each other and you will see them both sharing a room in the house, just they won’t be laying curled up together anytime soon. So far, Kitty has impressed me with the fact that he is very good at using his litter box, he is a hunter – first day here he caught himself a mouse. I was proud. He catches any flying or walking insects that may happen upon the home and kills them. Since this kitty is a true bred hunter, I will give him a loving forever home. In all honesty, I would give him a loving forever home if he was a hunter or not, it’s just that I am not sure what to do with a cat who wants outside when we will not allow him that luxury.

I wish the previous owner was honest about him being in outside kitty because I feel it’s so mean to make him be inside when he clearly was used to some form of outdoor freedom. I just cannot risk fleas … I am way too allergic to fleas.