I am an avid supporter of “me time” and the fact that parents do need to continue with hobbies, interests and fun times that keep them an individual while parenting. It’s important for parents to remain who they are or build who they are as an individual while still taking care of the family and being a parent.
The issue is that once you are a parent, it’s easier to just make the best decisions for your child. As a mom, I make decisions I would have never dreamed of making ever before but I make them. The reason being? My kids happiness makes me happy and my kids having a safe, secure and stable upbringing is way more important than any small piece of life I am missing.
I think that most times when you make the best decision for yourself it in turn affects your kids and becomes the best decision for both the kids and you. This may not be the case with all life style decisions though. Sometimes the positive thinking mindset or the redirection of your mind to the positive is all it takes to make a situation better for you because it’s the best situation for the kids.
Although I can’t condone always putting your kids first when it comes to how you live your life I can say that your children are watching you so make sure that each decision you make, whether best for you or best for your kids or both, that you think it through because if you are not 100% convinced it’s the best all around then you may start becoming bitter, angry and frustrated with your decision and that will affect your parenting and children in a negative way.