How frustrating is the dating scene for others? For me, it’s a nightmare sometimes. It seems all men are physically attracted to me and feel it’s love at first site. I try to explain to them they are simply thinking with their “other head” and I’m sure you know what I mean but they are convinced we are meant to be and in love. I will admit there is one or two people I have feelings for in a way that I wonder what the future holds, if I am meant to be with one of them or not, but I don’t feel in love with either of them like that.

I don’t understand why men think they have to tell a woman they love them to try to get them in bed?! I would prefer if someone wanted to try to sleep with me that they be honest and upfront. I am a big girl and I can handle my self and handle the honesty. I will admit there have been a couple of guys I have talked to that are straight up about wanting “no strings attached” and they are good friends of mine but I won’t sleep with them.

Here’s the deal; growing up I always looked to men for sex to feel loved or whatever I needed back years and years ago. I got my need to sleep with people stage out of my system. I am now a happy, single mother of three who always puts her children and business first. That is what my life revolves around at this time; children and business. I don’t have time to play games, I barely have time for dinner dates and I quite simply just don’t need the smooth talking jerks to come into my life and waste any of my time or theirs.

Dating is fun, it’s great getting to talk to a ton of new people and with text messages it’s even easier to get to know someone virtually before ever meeting for a dinner date. Text messages have saved me from meeting a lot of dumb men since I’ve been back on the dating bandwagon! As much as I feel texts or even emails can be very impersonal I love that they have opened the doors to getting to know someone a little bit better before spending hours upon hours on the phone away from my busy life just to find out they are complete jerks!

Dating can just plain suck, especially when you do not need anyone else in your life but simply want companionship, someone to cuddle up with to watch a movie every other weekend when the munchkins are gone. That my friends is exactly what I need a good friend that I can snuggle up to watching a movie on the couch, trust with me when I have a few beers and someone who I can call if having a bad day. I know there is a man out there who would love to be that person for me, it’s just weeding out all the jerks before I find him.

If you are dating you really should read this: